Funny how my perspective about what's important in finding a great relationship keeps changing. I used to think being friends first was the most important thing. The problem with that is I made friends but felt no sexual attraction. How could that work? For me, it didn't. OK...so then pull back and regroup. What would make it work for me? I have to feel the chemistry! I have to want to kiss you when I look at you! (And if you arent a really great kisser, I will probably not feel it for you. The KISS is vitally important to me...it tells me volumes about you.) The 'friends' part is important but it has to come AFTER the chemistry. When I feel inspired, I will have the excitement and energy to want to get to know you better...it's all about the inspiration...

With that said...

I believe in love. I believe it's possible to have the kind of relationship that songs are written about. I am a relationship person. I have what it takes to make this happen. I am committed, a great communicator, a great listener and want to be holding your hand in 40 years! I have made some mistakes through my life and learned from them. This has brought me to a place of clarity, wisdom and understanding about what really matters. I want to be madly in love and build an amazing life together. Is that possible? YES! I would love for this to be easy, peaceful, uncomplicated, smooth...I'm waiting for you! :)

The things I value in a relationship have shifted a bit over the years. I suppose that may be from living and learning more about myself and discovering what really matters. Character, integrity, values are high on my list...along with a love of honest communication.

What am I looking for in a relationship? Connection, friendship, mutual respect and attraction. I know I am not perfect and don't expect you to be. I work at staying physically fit and healthy. I want to feel young when I'm 80! I would like you to care about your health as well. (Although sometimes a pizza and a movie at home MUST be had on a Friday night!) I believe communication is the single most important quality in a long-term relationship (right behind great kissing). :) If you can openly and respectfully express your feelings and listen to mine, we can work through anything. Poor communication is a deal killer for me.

Watching movies in the theatre or snuggled up at home is a favorite pastime. I live near the Carbon River and spend lots of time there. Reading inspiring books, hiking, scuba diving in tropical water, listening to music, photography and hanging out with friends are a few of my favorite things.

I am deeply fascinated with spiritual and metaphysical subjects and am reading everything I can get my hands on. I know there is more to this life than meets the eye. I have a "larger view" of life and long to find someone who shares this passion.

I love the ocean anywhere from Belize to Washington to Fiji to Hawaii. Nature grounds me and inspires me.

I love the line from Rascal Flatts that says, "God bless the broken road that led me straight to you." That means that all relationships (even the really hard ones!) are important and lead us to the next important step. There are no accidents.

A few things about you and me:

I love the sparkle in your eyes when you look at me...

I love the ocean! I am a razor clam digger. : )

We are able to share deep, thoughtful, inspiring conversations...

You are honest and real and I love that you aren't perfect...

You are not intimidated by differences of opinions...

We are both anal about punctuality! : )

We support and respect each other's ideas even when we don't agree...

I love animals and I have 2 kitties!...

I love to photograph you...

I could kiss you for hours...(noticing a theme here?) :)

Tropical vacations are imperative...do you scuba?

We both love the outdoors and go there often...

Movies, hikes, snuggling on the couch, music in the park...

I love your masculinity and your vulnerability...

I know that I can trust you with my deepest secrets...

I want a soft place to fall...and I will be here for you, too...

I am a liberal thinker and rarely watch the news. I don't like to banter about politics, although I love our president. He is not perfect but has a huge view of life that I respect and admire. I would not want his job. I keep myself positive by protecting what I allow into my thoughts. I know I'm not for everyone...I respect your point of view and if you don't agree with mine, that's ok! Please don't feel you have to write me and tell me you don't agree. Just know it's ok.

P.S. I must admit...I am a tallaholic. I can't help it! I'm almost 5'10"! I have found most guys under 6' think (or hope) they are taller than they really are. If they actually are 6' or taller...they tend to be more honest about their height...

FYI: I am an INFJ in the Myers-Briggs test.

INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types.

INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They get "feelings" about things and intuitively understand them. As an extreme example, some INFJs report experiences of a psychic nature, such as getting strong feelings about there being a problem with a loved one, and discovering later that they were in a car accident. This is the sort of thing that other types may scorn and scoff at, and the INFJ themself does not really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized. Consequently, most INFJs are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it. They are deep, complex individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. INFJs hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive.

But the INFJ is as genuinely warm as they are complex. INFJs hold a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring. INFJs are concerned for people's feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or charged anger. They may tend to internalize conflict into their bodies, and experience health problems when under a lot of stress.

INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective.

A first date...I'll assume this is with someone I've already met and want to know better? How about a picnic at the beach with a bottle of wine and some great conversation...

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