I have many interests (both in and out of the bedroom!) and have been told that i have a wonderful sense of humour. I am well-educated, and able to hold a conversation on many topics.

I am coming out of a marriage of 25 years that, while it was wonderful in some respects, was very unfulfilling sexually. We are still on good terms.

After years of reading, and some tenative, and very enjoyable first steps, I have begun to more fully explore my sexual potential. I have been interested in many aspects of sexuality that fall outside of the mainstream, although I enjoy regular
play too.

I am looking for someone who can best be described as a sensual or sexual person. Someone for whom sensuality is a big part of who they are. You may have always had fantasies of being controlled, of submitting to someone it whom you could place your trust. Open-minded, and wanting to explore a side of you that they had always kept hidden. Chances are if you have read this far, you likely qualify!

I have always had an interest in the areas of BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism). Before you run away screaming at the top of your lungs.... keep in mind that these activities cover a wide range, from light spanking and bondage, to role play, to many other areas. I have found that most people have a part of them they think of of as "kinky" and prefer to keep it hidden. I was like that but now it has become more of a desire than interest and I have found, having taken the first steps, that I really enjoy it. Bringing pleasure to another, as well as myself, is a very powerful and emotional experience. I am looking for someone who does not mind the fact that I am still somewhat of a beginner, (although I have a lot of theoretical knowledge) but I am eager and willing to learn and to teach, mostly as a dominant, but possibly as a submissive.

You have always been curious about giving up control to someone, or wondering how one can be eroticised by new means. Being spontaneous and creative with your sexual desires, as well as being able to communicate them well is a great asset. If you can take charge on occasion, that would also be great.

I realise that physical appearance is a big part of the chemistry in any relationship so if you don't have a picture in your profile it would be appreciated if you can share one reasonably soon.

I'm not the type of person to try and pressure anyone into something with which they are not comfortable. If you think you ight be interested, feel free to ask questions, or even just send a comment, do write back. I promise to reply to anyone who takes the time and effort to write.