I'm a full-time worker (curse having to pay bills!), full-time student, part-time dad. I work as a "professional nerd" - I fix computers, networks, printers, faxes, toasters, even space heaters... if it runs on electricity, I can handle it. The title "digital messiah" was bestowed upon me by people who admired my ability to work miracles on a regular basis.

But after 20 years, I've stopped feeling the challenge I used to, and am have embarked on a career change. I'm studying to be a forensic investigator (that's CSI to all y'all). I'm looking forward to it immensely.

So that's what I do... here's what I am.

I'm tall. I'm cuddly. I qualify as "mildly handsome". I am very warm to the touch, perfect for snuggling. I'm a good listener and a good friend. I have a deep, rumbly voice that I'm told is very soothing. I'm constantly working on fixing the things that I don't like in myself, because I want to like myself even better than I do now. I maintain inner peace most of the time, and work on making that all of the time. I'm a shameless flirt, a lousy dancer, and try to make every moment enjoyable for myself and others, because what's the point in being a grumpy-puss all the time?

I have more female friends than male, and I like it that way. In the battle of the sexes, I defected a long time ago and became a double-agent. I spend a lot of time acting as a secret decoder ring so my gal pals can understand their guys better.

The universe is the punch line to a joke that I've spent my life trying to fully hear, because I've been laughing anyhow, and just want to know why.

And here's what I'm not:

I'm not a game-player - what you see is what you get, and while there might be a truckload of innuendo in what I say, there are no hidden meanings. I'm not abusive, or a cheater, or a drunk. I'm not unencumbered by baggage, but all things considered mine is of reasonable size and coordinates well with others.

So what am I doing here? Well, let me start by saying that I'm not looking for love or commitment. (I'm not opposed to them, but I'm not actively seeking either.) To my mind, all relationships have to have a solid foundation of friendship, or they won't last long. What I'm looking for is new people to talk to, hang out with, build those friendships and kinda see what happens. Good friends and good times. Anything more than that is for fate to decide. If you get too focused on "X is what I want" or "I have to have Y and Z", you limit yourself from the potential happiness and fulfillment that may come from things which don't conform to that vision.

If that sounds good, drop me a note. I'd love to hear from you.

First date or first meet?

On a first meeting, I will let the lady pick time and place. There's a lot of jackasses out here on the intertubes, and I aim to avoid being classed with them. Giving the lady choice of venue, so she can feel comfortable and safe, leaving control of the situation with her is one of the ways I aim to show that I am not "too good to be true".

On a first date, I tend to stick with tradition... a nice meal at a casual restaurant, followed by conversation, coffee, or wandering down to the beach to check out all of the first-daters who get down to earth at the beach. Going to the movies is pointless - why hang out with two hours where you can't talk? As with the meet-and-greet, I give the lady's choices priority consideration, as first-dates are nerve-racking enough without the additional stress of being in unfamiliar settings.

But I've had first dates which involved meeting at a theme park and riding roller coasters together, and one which involved a wedding - fortunately, not my own. So, as they say, "whatever happens, happens". I can totally roll with whatever comes my way.

Female
Age between 25 and 45
Live in United States
Must not do drugs
Must not be married