I am a semi-professional guy who has been divorced for a year and is looking for a nice, confident girl to have some fun with and see what develops. My life is full of paradoxes. I am gregarious, but often lonely. A good guy with a "bad boy" attitude at times. Have the brain of a professor, but the heart of an adolescent. And probably the biggest paradox of them all...........I had to lose my old life as a condition for finding a new one.

New Text: After being on the site a few months, I have noticed that the women on here have no problem detailing EXACTLY what they don't want. Which leads me to believe it is most likely a woman's world on this and most other dating sites with the guys making 90% of the initital contacts. Think there are some stats on here somewhere confirming this truth. I mean where else but a free dating site would you find the following:

The 240 lb. 46 year old who says she is "picky".

A 35 yr old. proudly displaying her three kids and announcing she is "independent" and really doesn't need you.

The woman who admits divorcing 4 times and says she definitely doesn't want any "players."

The wildly unattractive redhead with some missing teeth who proclaims "no back or chest hair!"

The dumb vacation pictures with your girlfriends. Come on. Nobody cares.

The even dumber pictures where there is an old boyfriend or male friend with one hand all over you and the other on a beer.

The gal who proclaims she has two masters degrees, seeking another, and words misspelled all over her profile.

I am sure all of the above women are messaged many times a day on POF. Good luck to you all!

I am not a great planner and prefer spontaneity especially on a first date. Just know that I will behave like a gentleman and treat you with respect.