Okay, these things are never easy. Everyone seems to say the same things. You know, I'm honest, beautiful, independent, socially and environmentally aware, looking for same, blah, blah, blah. Comes right down to it, there are only a few best of breed, and fewer best of show -- mostly we're all just a bunch of mutts, maybe cute, but just plain mutts. I say this not to disparage you, but to let you know I have a healthy sense of myself.

I am looking for some new friends after a three year hiatus after my separation and ensuing divorce. I have a lot of guy friends (don't take that the wrong way), but am beginning to miss the company of a good woman. In the interest of full disclosure, I do have three sons, one 24 and currently in the Army stationed in the Savannah area (from my first marriage that ended in her death due to type1 diabeties), one 6 and another 3 1/2 (from my second marriage ended due to her decision to divorce). Please know, I am NOT looking for a mother for them, but someone who acknowledges my expectation to be their dad and father.

I enjoy a laid-back but adventurous life style. I enjoy camping/hiking, canoeing, sports (watching, and playing although I'm not very good). I am working on my instructor rating for both scuba and flying. I'm just as comfortable at the ballet, or a Jimmy Buffett concert. I can ride a horse, and want to learn to ride a motorcycle (sorry no Harley's -- it's gotta be a crotch rocket for me). I'm a liberal Democrat and proud of it. I am actively involved with my church, but admit that the pagan in me comes out alot of the time.

Many of my friends can't figure me out. I have a lot of interest and hobbies, which I guess from their reactions just is not normal. I enjoy music (sorry--rap is NOT music, but of course my parents said the same about the Beatles) gardening, photography, cooking, wine, boating, the arts, reading, the sciences (both physical and social), and the list could go on.... I like to believe I'm politically aware and active. My graduate work was in applied anthropolgy focusing on disaster mitigation (far from my current profession).

There are three types of people who fighten me. The first are zealots -- regardless of their cause, whether its to save the whales, religion, Obama vs. McCain, whatever -- fanatics tend to scare me. The second are marketing people. Why have we gotten ourseleves so convinced we have to pay a buck and a quarter for a bottle of water, we can get out of the tap for nothing? And it comes from THE SAME PLACE! Marketing people tend to scare me. The last person to fighten me is the type that says "If I had the chance to do it all over again, I won't change a thing." I pray at night for God to give me back 10% of all the mistakes I've made, and I won't be real picky about what falls into that 10% column.

Please know that I DO NOT do drama, or play games from either end (or side of the fence). I know, I know, everybody says that, but honestly, I don't do drama or play games. I'm a bottom line kind of guy. If I see it and like it, well I say so. If I don't then I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but I call a spade a spade within the proper social parameters.

I am a self-employed professional (no, I'm not a lawyer, or a banker, real estate salesman, mortgage broker, etc. (Isn't candlestick maker suppose to fall in that group somewhere? )

I promise to get a better photo up soon, but until then you'll have to trust me to be honest (the pictures you're seeing are about a year old). I'm 5'11", blue eyes/brown hair and a very tanned complexion (yes, there are tan lines). My weight is 220#, on a muscular build. I admit to having a few extra pounds around the middle (damn that gravity storm), but I'm working on getting it off. I try to stay fit by running/cycling/swimming and going to the gym several times a week.

Whew, all that being said, thanks for taking the time to read my profile.

If you want to know more, please drop me a note.

tom

I know "real" men are not supposed to have catchy tag lines but here's one I cannot resist any longer:

The fact that we live at the bottom of a gravity well on a gaseous planet, orbiting a nuclear furnace 90 million miles away, and find that quite oridinary says a lot about our sense of perspective. Douglas Adams (1952-2002)

Here we go again with the standard textbook responses: coffee, dinner, drinks, etc.

I know you want to be safe, and have an easy exit if you think I'm the guy with the third hand growing out of the back of his head (it's not -- that's my brother). So coffee or drinks would be fine even if they are cliché. Lunch would be better, you know, short with a defined end (i.e., back to work). Or if a weekend thing is more of your taste a street festival would be great (you know an art fest, cultural fest, or taste of (fill in the blank).

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