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Intelligent. Sarcastic. Cynical. Articulate. Loyal. Inquisitive. Witty. Very affectionate. Passionate. I don't do anything half-assed. Big Bears fan and an even bigger Cubs fan. Love animals, especially cats but dogs rule too, I just don't have one of my own. I can watch a "chick flick" and enjoy it just as much as watching the latest shoot 'em up. Cuddling up on the couch or in bed with a DVD or two simply rocks!
I may not be able to erect a barn overnight but I do know my way around a toolbox. I love to laugh, I love to be goofy and I'll poke fun at anything. I'm a major league smart ass but my bark is way worse than my bite. I don't get offended easily and actually believe there isn't much that can't be made fun of. I love conversation like you wouldn't believe. I can talk for hours about virtually any subject from politics to entertainment to sports. I'm very opinionated. Someone that can converse endlessly about anything is a must! I will most definitely keep you on your toes intellectually. I'm actually shy in person, at first... and have a hard time breaking the ice. I'm not one of these macho, testosterone driven guys that hits on women left and right...definitely not the grease ball ego-driven type. I see way too much of that and always worry about being lumped in with that type just because I'm a fellow male. Once I do get warmed up though, I'm good at widening that crack in the ice. In other words, look out. I'm just not overly aggressive or pushy and sometimes that gets mistaken for lack of interest. Also, I don't like to be pacified. Don't tell me what you think I want to hear.. tell me the truth. I'm not into saying or doing things "just to be nice". I'm sincere. If I say it, I mean it. I expect the same.
I don't like predictability with anything. Spontaneity rocks! You won't find me standing in line to see the latest hit movie... or rushing to buy the big hit CD or DVD that everyone is clamoring for. I'm not a Lemming. I'm not a nine-to-five, sheep-like person. Not only do I march to the beat of a different drum, it's my drum and I'm the one beating it!
I'm very caring and definitely don't lack in showing affection. I'm the type of guy that will actually stand in the Hallmark store and read through 20 cards before I pick one out. I believe if it's coming from me, it has to represent me. You won't find me buying flowers from a five-gallon bucket from a guy on the side of the highway either and I most definitely do my own wrapping when gift-giving... bows and all!
I firmly believe any relationship or friendship has to be 50/50 in order for it to be successful. Maybe some days it'll be 30/70 but then there are days where it'll be 70/30. It can't be 50/50 every day but it should always even out in the long run if both parties are on the same page. One thing I don't tolerate though is a one sided relationship. I don't tolerate putting more of myself into the friendship/relationship than the other person. While I most certainly am not someone who is needy, I don't expect to be the only one who puts in 100%. I'm also more of a one-on-one person. Not big on group dates. I also don't subscribe to the Archie Bunker/1950's mentality of relationships. I don't expect my dinner on the table after work. I won't plop down in the Lazy Boy and demand a beer and a woman's place is not at home cooking and cleaning. I do my own laundry, cook for myself and even iron my own shirts and starch them. Imagine that! LOL! Although I was a bartender for about seven years I'm not a fan of the scene and never was. It was the family business so that's why I did it. It's the last place I'd look for a partner... no scratch that, a bar wouldn't even be on the list.
Music is a huge part of my life. I'm a hard rock kinda' guy and am now fortunate to work with many of the bands I grew up on in the late 70's, 80's and 90's (KISS, Van Halen, AC/DC, Queensryche, etc). Ideally, it would be fantastic if someone shared the same musical interest and could appreciate and enjoy the music and my experiences and endeavors along with me.
Some might not want to hear this but here goes. I'm not a serial dater. I'm not here to exchange an email or two and then jump right into meeting someone in person. Ideally, I'd love to exchange some emails... then if there's mutual interest, take it to some phone calls. If we're clicking real well via the phone then we can decide on meeting in person. Quality not quantity. I'm interested in connecting with one person and letting that connection flourish. I don't want this to feel like I'm being interviewed for a job. I'm not interested in running out to coffee shops and restaurants every week to meet everyone who I've exchanged a message or two with. I want to start feeling a connection through email and phone... and meeting up will just reaffirm that. This isn't a game. It's not a contest. Again, quality not quantity. I could honestly put either dating, long term or hang out as for the reason I'm here. I'm open for anything and not the type that would resist something that started out as hang out but eventually headed towards long term. I know I see quite a few people on here comment about how they don't want to waste time emailing and phoning... they'd rather jump right into meeting. Sorry, not for me. I'd much rather invest the time getting to know someone and then meet them. I speak from experience when I say the chances for success are much greater when you meet someone for the first time that you've actually been getting to know for awhile.
First date? Hmmm... well... it would depend on the people involved. Their likes, dislikes and interests. It's definitely something that should be disussed between the two people involved when the time is right.
I do have to state that I'm not here to play games. I despise people who don't have the spine to say "not interested anymore" after talking to you and getting to know you. I also don't "play the field". If I am interested in one certain someone, I put all my energy into them. I don't keep two or three others hanging around. I expect the same in return. :)
If you're hung up on what I do for a living, where I live, how much money I make, what kind of car I drive or what my credit score is... don't bother. Move along. After browsing through quite a few profiles on here, I'm really surprised by some of the "requirements" people list. One in fact, flat out said she wanted to see the credit score of anyone she might potentially be interested in. Here's the way I see it. When you need a shoulder to cry on, it's not my paycheck that's going to comfort you. When you need a smile, it's not my car that's going to provide it. When you want to talk about what a great day you had or your most recent accomplishment, it's not my job that's going to be interested and listen attentively. When you want to just veg out and cuddle up with a DVD and some popcorn, it won't be with the company of my credit score. If those material things are a deal-maker/breaker to you, move along. There's nothing to see here. I'm interested in getting to know a PERSON and share common likes and interests. Cars, jobs, houses and paychecks don't interest me. Sure, I'm not looking for someone to support or someone to support me in any way but at the same time you can't put your arms around a credit score and a check stub certainly won't keep you warm at night. Food for thought.
I'm looking for someone who inspires me. Someone I can be proud of. Someone that looks forward to sharing their thoughts with me and enjoys hearing mine. Someone that can enjoy a deep dish pizza and won't order a salad everytime we go out. Someone that loves the sweats and t shirts and doesn't always worry about how they look. Someone who won't let morning breath stand in the way of a good morning kiss!
I've had a couple of life changing experiences in the past couple of years. They've changed my outlook on certain things in life, really grounding me. I'm not the richest guy in town and definitely not Mr.GQ. You won't find me at a wine tasting or the opera, not that there's anything wrong with that - it's just not me. I'm just a simple blue jeans and t-shirt, southside Chicago guy.
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