To be very honest I don't have much faith in this site because of most of the men I have come in contact with on here -- I would have to say that most have no business even being on this site in the first place and it's too bad POF doesn't screen it's users to save all of us the unnecessary BS. I am not a cynic just a realist. I'm 44 and I don't have the time nor tolerance for people's crap. I am not here to save you, be the excitement in your life nor complete you. I am a human being with a heart and half my life left and I deserve to be with someone who is emotionally healthy and who has put complete closure on the past - who knows what it means to love (yes it's something you give), and is ready to build something long term with 1 woman.

You are:
1. 100% Emotionally stable and available and you know who you are and what you are looking for:

- if you don't know who you are, how am I suppose to? Did you give yourself
enough time after the last relationship to find out who you are or did you
rush here to fill the void fast because you are insecure about surviving on
your own?
- if you're still separated or just out of a relationship sorry 3's a crowd.
- if you have an ex, you don't have a relationship with her outside of parenting
- you don't go through women like kleenexes

2. You're not just out here looking for someone to hang with on a Friday night
- you're not a serial dater
- you don't have a string of women's names & numbers in your cell phone
- you don't have a bunch of women as your "buddies"

3. You've got your life together and you're established and you're responsible:
- you're not rooming with someone or living in your parents' basement
- you have a full time job and a roof over your head
- you're not a transient and living someplace different every 12 months.
- if you have children you are active in their lives and not a deadbeat dad

4. You take care of yourself:
- you're clean and well-groomed but not vain about it
- you're a healthy weight but you're not a muscle head hanging at the gym 7
days a week either

5. You have integrity:
- you're GENUINE, forthright, honest, completely loyal to your partner, walk
the talk and don't use your words loosely
- you have principles and stand up for what you believe in and you don't keep
secrets from your partner

6. You have a sense of humour:
- you can see the funny side of life and you love to laugh and make me laugh
and you can even laugh at yourself but you know when to be serious too.

7. You are kind and compassionate:
- you can put your own needs aside to care and be there for someone else when
required, you are empathetic and place importance on matters of the heart.

8. You love children (and dogs) and value family life. You can get involved and
you're playful and caring and can be a good role model and you don't consider
them baggage.

9. You can make me and eventually my daughter a priority in your life.

10. You are loving and affectionate and have no problems showing it.

11. You have a clean lifestyle: - you're not a slob, you don't smoke at all (and
yeah, 'trying to kick the habit' means you're still a smoker) and you don't do
drugs of any kind and you have never been in trouble with the law.

12. You have intelligence: - you can spell and are smarter than a 5th grader.

13. You are a gentleman and you treat women with respect always:
- You're not arrogant, egotistical, self-centered, or rude and you don't have an
anger-management problem.

14. You are a happy, positive, glass half full type of person.

If you don't possess the above I'm not interested.

I am:

A good person. I believe there is nothing greater in this life than love and that love is about what you give. I am compassionate and I know what it means to sacrifice for another. I have loved from my soul. When I am in love with someone I would give that person the world if it was mine to give. I have spent as much time alone as I have married to someone so I know what both are about. I am a mother and I take that responsibility very seriously. I am completely loyal. I am educated and very intelligent. I am an emotional person and things matter to me. My heart rules my head in most cases but I am far from naive. I am young at heart and I marvel at and appreciate things that most people do not. I love to laugh and make others laugh and have been told I have a very witty sense of humour. Family is so important to me. My parents have been married 50 years and have been a wonderful example to me and I am very close to them. I am a girly-girl but I am not afraid to get my hands dirty either. I am comfortable in almost every social setting and can be considered both an extrovert and an introvert. Solitude does not scare me -- it is in moments alone I have been able to reflect and gain wisdom about what matters and know myself completely. I'm a happy person but I don't fake smiles for anyone. I love nature, and animals and dogs especially, however I'm allergic to cats. I'm a non-smoker, I only drink socially and I have never touched pot or any drug ever in my life. Other than a few speeding and parking tickets I have never been in trouble with the law. I can not live without music. I love to cook especially when I have someone to do it for. I'm drama-free, baggage free, I'm not high maintenance and I don't nag.

I don't believe in forcing love... I am not out here to meet someone for a fun night or just to get my kicks -- if you pressure me to meet you face to face right off the bat when you haven't even taken the time to learn about me I will end up blocking you (because I know what you're after).... and if you tell me your interested send me a couple of lame messages, I don't hear from you again for a month and then all of a sudden you're back asking when we can meet (GONG - sorry you can play your "one-up game" someplace else.) - if you walk away you walk away for good (I don't chase).

Just to be clear so there are no misunderstandings - I'm NOT looking for the following:
- superficial guys looking for Barbie dolls
- an affair
- to be your rebound
- to save you from a boring life
- a "bad boy", biker dude, or muscle-head
- men with excess facial hair
- intimidating men - if you don't smile and your pics are scary move on
- an online relationship (I want off this site)


I am looking to build the strongest of friendships first and foremost that will hopefully develop over time into something very loving, deep long-term and committed. If it d

We'd have to get past a first meeting to get to a first date. As long as it's not a job interview and we can smile and enjoy each other's company and get to know each other -- the rest is trivial.

I dream so many things...

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