First off, if you are looking to fill some void in your life because you just got screwed over or are carrying around baggage full of all the @ssholes that used you, then don't write me. I'm only interested in healthy, fun relationships. And I'm tired of apologizing for my gender.

If you are needy and are at this minute thinking that I might be your perfect man and you are visualizing what it would be like to be married to me, I'm going to have to run away. It's nothing against you, I'm just not willing to make a commitment out of desperation.

And if you want to have sex on the first date, that may be okay....but I wouldn't count on a second date. I like sex, but in my experience premature intimacy blinds one (or both) to other person's flaws....and I'm not about to waste time jumping into the wrong relationships. I just want to go on a few dates before I make a decision....I can wait to get exclusive (and anyone that is into you will too).

It's not that I am a jerk and won't ever give you a shoulder to cry on and my undivided attention. All I am saying is, it's really nice to meet the right person BUT it really sucks to meet the right person at the wrong time.

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WHAT I AM: Looking for some fun people to be social with just hanging out....and should I meet a special girl, dating is definitely an option.

I'm a paramedic in Sicamous but will be lateralling into the Enderby station in a month or 2, want to meet some locals to have a blast with, like dual-sport motorbiking and camping or whatever around the Okanagan....I'm all for outdoor activities. Yeah, that's hot!

For those of you that would like to know more, I can only tell you that I can't dress myself and will wear socks with sandals. No woman has ever broken me of that habit, and I doubt any woman ever will. I think it is more likely that I will make socks & sandals popular.

I am housebroken, but I won't put the seat down. If I have to lift it up, then you can put it down. It's give and take for equality. Am I right? Yeah? yeah, I know it! (Can I get a woop-woop!?)

Also, I'm an idiot. Don't expect great things from me unless you just can't get enough disappointment. Altho! I am a fabulous speller. And if you want to know even more, well...okay, I'm an under-achiever and I'm just looking for people that want to hang out or tip at a few windmills or something. And I don't know why my age says I'm 27, that's an error. I look like I am 27 easy....but I'm not. I'm 30-something.

Just something I want to point out to you women: nice guys are not to be trusted! Okay? When a guy is really nice to you, that doesn't mean that he is a good person. Never trust the wolf with the biggest smile, for he has the largest teeth. Okay? Any of this making sense?

Here's another pointer for some of you, because I hear it a lot: guys that use pity to hook a girl. You go out on a date, you talk, things are nice and soon he's talking about bad things in his life. He starts small and works up to some bad stuff that he feels bad about. You join in. This is pitiful. Get up and run away. This is false intimacy and is a seductive attempt to draw you in closer. He's not trying to gain your appreciation for him as a person, he's using tricks. It may be insecurity or real emotional trauma, but that's for a therapist to work out, not a prospective date. You really want to care for a stranger's problems on a date? Hell no! That's just not healthy. But you women have a natural mothering instinct so you fall for it so easily. Then he gets what he wants and writes you a few emails and then disappears. Boys that use pity to hook women are pitiful. A real man finds a woman that he likes, treats her like she deserves to be treated and she likes him because he's happy, confident and ready for a healthy relationship. This is the sign of a good provider. Pity is the sign of a user or a needer.

Just use some sense and judge a person by who they are, not by how they seem....now, If you need help with this, then I suggest reading "Maybe He's Just Not That Into You!"....I read it in a day. And it made me better for the time I spent learning about men and women. I am grateful for the recommendation to me that I give it a browse....it was well worth reading.

NOW, where was I?

oh yeah, I like stuff. First date? Well, I can come up with a plan or you can make a suggestion....I'm only interested in your enjoyment.

Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not do drugs