Update - 11/04/09

Wahooo! I just passed my first year living in Missoula! Went by way of the Bay Area, Portland, to Spokane to where I've wanted to live for 10 years since my first visit - Montana. I absolutely love it here!

It's not too common that I go seeking out women on here. I guess I feel that I've put enough effort into my profile to generate interest and I got tired a long time ago of writing lengthy emails only to get no response whatsoever. Statistically speaking, I've had much better luck with those that have sought me out than the other way around.

So, if you're kewl and real, kickin' it in this beautiful place...consider getting in touch with me.

Now, on with my profile...

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Thanks for stopping by! I’ll cut right to the chase...I’m looking for a woman who’s intelligent, capable, head strong and open to trying new things. I have a preference for women of substance...one that wants a man capable of good conversation, a fair amount of depth and expanding your horizons. I prefer a woman who has a palette for beer & wine, crafts/arts, music, travel/road trips, social events and outdoor stuff, like camping. I’m interested in a connection on many planes...but what that means is very open to definition.

I'm ultimately looking for a healthy LTR with an option for more, but that obviously has to start somewhere and is dependent on WAY too many factors that neither you or I should have to think about right now. In the end, a solid foundation of friendship is the only thing that will make the above last...so that's my number one goal.

I enjoy cooking and command a respectable repertoire of culinary skills and tastes. I find myself less motivated on that front when single, however. I enjoy a good partnership in the kitchen and like sharing these responsibilities, but also admit that I like being cared for at this level.

I also seek a strong spiritual connection as I feel this is important to being able to conquer life together. It is important to me that my partner also be on this path. I believe in God, and would call myself a Christian, but I have taken an interesting path to get there. I am tolerant of differing viewpoints and varying stages of growth as I have no qualifications to be holier than thou and I recognize my inability to accurately judge the path of another.

About me...I’m 31, 5’11, 180lbs, decent looking, and for the most part, have my stuff together. I’ve never been married, don’t have children, have a vehicle, am well employed, and am financially and mentally stable. I have a lot of interests, almost too many to go into...but suffice it to say, I have a good blend of crafts/arts, technological and philosophic interests. I find myself drawn to interesting things.

I’m socially adept and can blend into almost any situation...my persuasion is serious, yet I know how to kick back and make people laugh. I know when to speak and when to shut up...and I'm neither a gossip or a rat. I believe that trust and respect are earned, not expected. I'm both a leader and a follower, but find the former my more natural role. If minds were an object, mine would be a steel trap...I'm pretty intuitive and grasp things pretty quickly. I am far from the definition of mainstream...but in a perfectly normal, unconventional sense. I'm not the kind of guy that sits around and watches TV...in fact, I don't do that at all, except to watch a movie or documentary. I keep busy & take on a lot of responsibility...but I make time for the right people. Doing what I say (honor) and saying what I do (honesty) are important things to me. I don’t like secrets, but I also don’t reveal myself in one sitting.

I'm well traveled, mostly domestically. I've been to 38 states, some more than others and the Pacific NW is my back yard. I've been all over Montana, Washington, Oregon, and Idaho. My favorite way to travel (personally) is to plot a general direction, throw the camping gear in the rig and camp along the way until I'm ready (errr...forced) to come home. That doesn't mean I don't also enjoy the fine amenities of a Bed & Breakfast or a resort hotel...but I'm not above a hostel, for the fun of it, either.

Music is very important to me. I shed my bias of favorite bands and genres long ago and consequently, my taste is rather diverse. I did desire to keep a certain level of taste and admittedly, spent more time in some genres than others...but, thankfully, it's not like music is over for me at this moment. I like it hard, soft, sensual, stimulating...from popular to obscure, new to old...there is hardly anything better than discovering a new great song. Music is my diffuser, my inner-peace, my lifelong companion...it's what keeps me sane in an insane world.

What do I offer? A strong, faithful relationship - for the right woman. A man who can take care of things, someone you can trust with anything and someone who will help you achieve your life’s goals. I seek out a partnership, not a top-down display of superiority...but I also adhere to some traditionally accepted relationship roles. I am interested in building a solid relationship, rooted deeply in friendship, understanding and forgiveness, that will withstand gale force winds and all of life's tribulations that might come our way.

Since I can easily define what I don’t want, here are the deal breakers for me. Through one experience or more, these have become important things to me and it's a rare case that I would make an exception. If you are the unfaithful type, have problems with honesty, you dish out emotional abuse, are looking for a savior, find it difficult to be open, you can’t drive, are living with your parents, have three or more children, have been married twice or more, have baggage (we all have our baggage, but I mean like x's that keep coming around or might try to kill me - good luck!), are a drama queen in such a way that far exceeds the average woman drama, are materially superficial to a fault, or are insanely needy & will text message me a hundred times a day in a non-mutual way...then I'm probably not your guy.

I have a few crutches and faults. I smoke, but I hate it and I won’t do it for the rest of my days. I also drink moderately (maybe 2-3 times a week) as I enjoy the pursuit of the perfect beer and will probably do that the rest of my days. I am also insistent when something matters to me, but I have also learned the fine art of compromise. I am certain there are others and I am willing to share them, but I'm trying to get you interested here!

So, if you’ve liked what you’ve read and think you might have a connection here, get in touch! I look forward to hearing from you!

First impressions are important, but I also don't base everything upon them.

Something that would be comfortable, sustain mutual interest and allow us to get to know one another to see if there is a connection. I could think of a lot of things like that...just depends on what's going on and what you're comfortable with. Typically speaking, my first dates that have developed into more have evolved in an unplanned way and have been mutually enjoyable. I don't mind a more rigid first encounter...but I usually keep my options open, just in case there's cause for deeper exploration.

I'm at a point in my life where I don't like to spend a lot of time pursuing something that doesn't spark for me. I usually get a pretty good instinct fairly quickly after meeting someone and won't take things beyond that if what I'm looking for isn't there. I've learned from experience that it's best not to pursue things that aren't right for me and I know first hand that it can be painful to be led on when intentions aren't true.