When I practice dance as a hobby in the gym studio, many people mistake me as a professional dancer getting ready for a show or performance. They are always shocked to learn that I am an analyst working at a hedge fund. On the surface, my profession contradicts my hobby – one is often perceived to be cold, rational, pragmatic, and only about dollars and cents; while the other is commonly viewed as passionate, emotional, romantic, and all about self-expression. However, underneath the apparent contradictions lies the common ground – both my profession and my hobby require a great deal of creativity, tenacity, and discipline; they both combine art with science; and they both constantly adapt, evolve, and improve.

Life is full of contradictions. When managed properly, contradictions actually offer us balance, excitement, multiplicity, and opportunities to learn and grow. I am a person of contradictions. I can be very sentimental, and I can be very pragmatic. I can appear cold as ice, and I can be passionate as fire. I feel just at ease dressing up in an evening gown entertaining a large crowd, as I am comfortable wearing jeans and T-shirt cooking a home-made meal for my best friend. I enjoy the finer things in life such as concerts, musicals, travel, and restaurants; at the same time, I appreciate simple pleasures such as watering the flowers by my window into full bloom, taking a leisurely walk in the park, listening to the music by candlelight, watching sunrise and sunset, and reading an enlightening book late into the night.

I value life-long learning. I believe that every person we meet in life teaches us something about ourselves, about others, and about this world in which we live. I seek a man who maintains an inquisitive mind despite of age, retains optimism despite of temporary setbacks, and has the intellectual and emotional capacity to sincerely appreciate the brain in addition to the beauty. That man should be strong enough to admit his weaknesses, confident enough to able to express his feelings, mature enough to understand that diamonds can’t buy love, self-aware enough to know what he wants, decisive enough to seize opportunities, tenacious enough to achieve his own financial freedom, disciplined enough to resist temptations and maintain a healthy life style, and forgiving enough to recognize that no one is perfect, including himself. That man should feel comfortable about himself, while at the same time value the intellectual, emotional and physical rewards from a long-term relationship built on common values.

I believe that standing beside every strong man is an equally strong woman. I also believe that inside every grown man, there is a little boy that yearns for excitement. The question is, will the grown man be strong enough to be able to handle an equally strong woman so that the little boy inside would have a chance to come out and enjoy the excitement? Assuming you are grown enough to read my profile, are you strong enough?

I am open to all possibilities. A few words of advice for those who are are open-minded enough to listen to advices from the other side. No matter how strong a woman is, she always likes to be pampered by a man who is stronger than she is. So on the first date, if you really like the girl, show her that you care about her and you are a gentleman. If you don't like the girl, then let her pick up her own tab and hopefully she gets the message. The last thing you want to do is to leave the wrong impression with the girl you actually like that you are either emotionally unwilling to or financially incapable of pampering her and thus lose the chance of ever seeing her again.

One of my guy friends has a great approach to his first dates: he starts with one drink first. If he does not like the girl, he ends the date after the first drink. If the conversation goes well, he will order another drink. If he really likes the girl, he orders a full course meal for both of them. He never breaks his wallet for the girl he does not like, and he always scores a second date with the girl he really likes.

As for me, I don't ever drink any alcohol. So I will be a cheap date. However, I never go on a second date with anyone cheap.

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