I'm polyamorous and so is my wife. I'm not cheating, looking to "play outside of my marriage," "go behind her back," or anything resembling nefarious behavior. You can talk to her directly if you have any doubts - GemNY. We've been together 9 years, married for nearly four, have had a couple of polyamorous relationships already, but are looking for someone who can commit to us, someone comfortable in an ongoing relationship with a couple.

I'm reasonably well-educated (MA from a major university), have been in marketing, promotion, advertising, and finally wound up in IS.

Between us we share 4 teenagers, none of whom live with us.

We're looking for a long-term, committed relationship with someone equally attracted to a man and a woman. We're together many years, serious about dominance and submission in our lives as well as sadism and masochism. We're well known in the leather community in NYC, and are not seeking a casual "play parter" but a serious relationship with someone willing to be a self-sufficient third in a triad.

Laughter - and the ability to find humor in oneself as well as externally - is an important ingredient, as well as curiousity, conversation, and commonality of interests. If you think words like "eclectic", "challenging", "unusual", and "daring" are good descriptors for you, we may very well be a perfect fit.

"You had your whole life to prepare for this moment. Why aren't you ready?"
- David Mamet, "Spartan"

What we would do on a first date? Talk. And talk. And see what comes from that.