Looking for a special person to share in this journey of life . . . a lady who wants to be committed in a relationship so as to foster understanding, affection, closeness, love, intimacy, and time to devote to each other's emotional needs. She must know the importance of spoken words in a effort to open up fully to each other. These conversations are not just opportunities to go on “send”, but times to share our truths about each other and above all . . time to listen and understand. She must also enjoy sharing everything from light-hearted playfulness to matters of the heart, mind, body, spirit, and soul. She must enjoy social outings, as well as quiet times to get away from the daily distractions that surround each of us. She must recognize the limitations of being set in one’s ways, and be open-minded to what life offers along the way.

These are some of the essential parts of the relationship I desire . . . a relationship that puts my soul mate first. OK . . . she says . . . let's make one thing clear. These might be your male-perspective words, but before I go down any path with you, "I" want to add my two cents to this wish list . . . this is not all about you. He smiles . . refusing to fall to the temptation of saying . . . yes dear.


As my friends say . . . you get what you see . . . am easy going and have a pleasant personality. I have been retired for the past 14 years and really enjoy the freedom of not having to commit to a full time job. I did however go back to work for 5 months last year in Afghanistan. One rewarding experience I take most seriously is mentoring of military officers on a career course at the Staff College in Kingston . . . most of those folks are destined for dangerous duties in Afghanistan. I enjoy writing, carving, cabinet work, and lots of other activities . . . . the likes of which my friends call handy-man-stuff. I always look forward to the spring and the chance once again to be back outdoors. Gardening, outdoor projects, bicycling, walks, and everything about the great outdoors just turns my crank. The one thing my writing has help me with is this journey through life. My journals have help me remain in the proverbial centre. I hope we can have some meaningful talks in that regard.

I am not looking for the rocking chair anytime soon, as I certainly have not yet experienced the fullness of life. I want to continue on my journey. I want to explore what this world has to offer. I want to be challenged, and to love and be loved without borders.

Yes there are good memories . . . but let's save them for rainy days. So put down your photo album. We have to get up and get out there, because our arrow is heading into the future . . that is where the fullness of life is.

And as you close the door, don't forget your camera, there will be lots of good photo opportunities and room for lots more good memories where we are going.

A first date . . . a first encounter . . . an only time to get a first impression. Now there is enough pressure to crash anyone's expectations. So let's turn it around and put this online dating service into perspective. It is an unnatural way to meet someone . . . from first contact online with a perfect stranger . . . to taking the steps to actually agree to meet . . . now there is a scenerio that does not have the image of a "date" . . . but a real opportunity to get to meet someone I would not otherwise have. And in that context . . . . it is one step up from the questions my mother would be asking in trying to line up a date for me . . . it is not about trying to impress, but a real time, nose-to-nose opportunity to get to know a little about someone. Unless you invoke your veto vote . . forget about fancy restaurants . . . flowers . . . and all such trampings. This is about time to talk . . . laugh . . . and try to see how each other tick. So depending on the weather, we might pick up our favourite icecream and walk in the park . . . and find a place where the birds sing and the only visitors are the curious squirrels. And then let us see whether we really are in the same time and space.

Female
Age between 50 and 62
Live in Canada
Must not do drugs
Must not be married
Must not smoke