I'm Tam. Life is busy these days. And also rather awesome. Last year I was teaching and now I work as a support worker/arts facilitator for a youth drop-in centre, do media work for a politician and write for a newspaper. Yup, 3 jobs. I fill the few gaps that leaves with lots of projects, hanging out with friends and being stressed. And playing with my dog.

I can usually be found up late, not sleeping and trying to get something done. I volunteer lots and usually have a bazillion things on the go. I'll sleep when I'm dead. Activism is one of the most important things in my life, but it's okay if you don't get why.

I have two dogs. I write a lot. I love music, movies and reading. Concerts are awesome and they're better when they're small. I like checking out festivals, events and restaurants. I'm teaching myself how to cook. I have a lot of friends (god knows why) and spend as much time with them as possible.

I do a lot of work with queer youth. I've planned a camping trip for LGBTQA teens two years in a row and spent another five years working with a second queer youth camp and this year helped make it work in another province. I do a lot of interviews and sometimes record shows. I help friends with promoting/planning/hosting events. I've been dedicating time to politics and helping to organize demonstrations. I was just part of a campaign that convinced Facebook to change its policy for trans people. I'm just fumbling my way through life, learning how to do new things as I go.

I'm analytical and logical, compassionate and blunt. People seem to think I'm funny. I'm intense on occasion and silly often. I think real wisdom is knowing your flaws and limitations. I'm a planner but I'm disorganized. I know a little about a lot of things but not a lot about many. I'm agnostic. I talk as much as I listen. Also, I'm frustratingly indesicive. Don't leave me with a menu, for reals.

I'm not nearly as serious as I come off sometimes. I can be outgoing or introverted. I'm a bit of a goof and I kid and tease and make a lot of inappropriate jokes. I'm a huge dork and I'm alright with that.

Commercials, bad movies can make me cry. My guilty pleasures are movies like Bring It On or She's The Man. It apparently surprises people that I enjoy Rihanna, Lady Gaga, Sex and the City, The House Bunny, etc. I may even watch terrible reality shows sometimes. And since I'm a dyke, I love Tegan and Sara.

I've somehow found myself spending a lot of the last couple years travelling around western North America. It's been awesome, I've met incredible people and gained so much knowledge, seen so many sights. There's so much out there to learn about.

I'm open to new friends and dating. I don't do random sex. Or couples. Or cybering. No thank you.

I ramble way too much. A cookie for you if you got to the end.



I like to think of Jesus like a figure skater, who wears, like, a white outfit, and he does interpretive ice dances of my life's journey.
- Talledega Nights

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
- Maya Angelou

I like a lot of different kinds of things. A concert, museum, sporting event, festival, art gallery, bowling, a play, movie, arcade, picnic, Galaxyland, craft making of some sort, bowling, going on a random road trip, laser tag, lectures/talks at the university, any random new experience. I’m not a big fan of the initial coffee date. I think that puts a lot of pressure on both parties to create small talk and try to hit it off immediately.

Honestly if the meeting involves a connection, shared interests, conversation flowing easily and attraction, I'm there. It doesn't really matter what we’re doing. With the right company, I'm easy to please. And sometimes things going terrible wrong and lots of awkwardness, that’s fun too. I'm not looking for perfect.