I am really a very positive person, but online experience has taught me to set healthy boundaries from the start to save me a lot of time with the more troubled POF members.

I don't have the time or patience for men with personality disorders, drug or alcohol addictions, those who were just released from prison or a volatile marriage, those who already have a significant other, or those who don't have 2 nickels to rub together to meet with someone dutch treat.

I'm not interested in your money, but I do require your time and sincere attention before I will be interested in your body.

Red Flag alert:

1. Never married: Doesn't mean I'm lonely or desperate. I feel I'm wise for not jumping into anything like too many have.
2. No children: Does not mean I dislike children - just never felt the need to create another human being. The planet is well populated.
3. Knowing how to use firearms: I live in a rural area where knowing how to protect myself against an intruder gives me peace of mind. I do not have an anger management problem or a hair trigger temper despite what you may believe about redheads. I do not even believe in raising my voice in anger.
4. Fondness for cats: This does not mean I need a housefull of them - I find that disgusting. I have 2 kitties which provide me unconditional love. Loving pets but in moderation is key.
5. I am not petite nor slender: I am a performer and perfectly ok with who I am. I am not desperate for love, have a healthy self esteem, and have not even suffered a cold for over 4 years.

A first date? You mean where 2 people meet in public? Face to face? In real life? Surely that's just a myth?
Seriously, to start off right, after I have gotten to know you a bit online, a nice (and proper) first date is really the best way to start out, but Dutch treat.