I'm a man seeking an intelligent, fit and nice woman to give sensual affection to – hopefully with someone who feels the need to share their affection too. I’m looking for just ONE person, that can be very discreet, and would perhaps like a longer term, ongoing affair… I’m NOT looking for love or a serious long-term relationship, but I WOULD love to have someone to share affection, sensuality and itimacy with... and HAVE FUN together!

I’ve been married a long time, but my wife and I have not had a sexual relationship for MANY years. I’ve “strayed” several times - the last time for eight years with a woman that had an emotionally abusive husband. We were both married and it was truly a "WIN/WIN" relationship!!! She got divorced three years after we began our affair, and we were exclusive partners for five more years - though we both new things could change... After such a long time we both TRULY Loved each other as both friends and lovers – she needed to move on to find someone that was “available,” respectful and worthy of her - and she finally found someone about a year ago. I want to stay with my wife, who is a wonderful woman in many ways, but due mostly to some serious health issues, is not able (or willing) to be sensual or sexual. I REALLY miss admiring a woman’s beautiful body and sharing affection and intimacy, and I do NOT want to remain celibate!

Discretion is obviously VERY important to me. The reason I was able to continue my previous relationship so long is that VERY FEW other people knew about us. Both men and women tend to talk amongst themselves and your friends and mine may know each other. I don’t mind sharing my “stuff” with you, and welcome the same from you, but I don’t want others to know what we’re doing! I don’t want to interfere in your life, and I don’t want you to disrupt mine either!

I keep myself clean and have NO communicable diseases (and of course I expect the same from you). I do not smoke, and rarely drink alcohol. I shower every morning, (sometimes in the afternoon too), wash and use cream rinse on my hair (I get lots of compliments about my hair) - but unfortunately, I recently found out that I have a type of lymphoma that IS TREATABLE with chemotherapy, and I have now started the treatments - and my hair (temporarily) is almost completely gone... But, I feel fine (no pain, nausea, or discomfort at all), and I continue to be very active physically, and have a positive prognosis - so I'm still moving forward, and still feel the need to GIVE (and receive) affection.

I recently turned 63, I’m 6’4” tall, about 190 lbs, and in good physical shape. I love to mountain bike on Mount Tamalpais, and take two vigorous walks/day with my one-year-old puppy. I would like to find someone who is also in pretty good physical shape, preferably with a thin to medium build - but the FIRST place I look at a woman is her face (yes - even before her breasts). If a nice woman has a pretty face and smile, and a warm, friendly demeanor, and is reasonably intelligent – THOSE are the things I find MOST attractive! Perfection is not what I’m looking for, and I don’t claim to be perfect either!

I have a headshot of myself (the only difference from my photo is that recently I shaved off my mustache), and several other recent photos (one with a bike riding friend, and the other one on a hike with Mt. Tam and San Francisco in the background. Another photo of me is just before a mountain bike ride taken in May '09. I am a VISUAL person, and I’d like to see a headshot and other photos of YOU as well! Of course, the need for “chemistry” and physical attraction is mutual, so I hope you find me attractive...

I think I’m a genuinely nice person (except for the “cheating” part), and I am respectful in my communications. I don’t like giving or receiving pain, have no power or anger issues, and love animals and my Mother Earth. I truly LIKE most people, and enjoy helping them feel good about themselves!

I've been told I’m an attentive, affectionate and considerate lover, and I am confident that I “know what to do” to please you. My sexual tastes are relatively “normal” - I like to nuzzle and lick and taste and touch, and I REALLY enjoy just admiring a woman’s beautiful face and body! I like to cuddle and snuggle and touch, and my PRIME goal as a lover - believe it or not - is to make SURE that my partner is satisfied (has an orgasm) BEFORE the attention turns to me. I’m a tactile/sensual person, and I really enjoy touching (and being touched). When possible, I like to begin by bathing together, rubbing your feet, hands, shoulders, neck (and wherever else you hold your stress), then apply some lotion to your whole body, and kiss and snuggle until you feel receptive to more intimate touching... AND, I also like to cuddle afterwards!

I have traveled and lived overseas, and lived in San Francisco for 12 years - but I’ve been living in San Rafael (12 miles North of the Golden Gate Bridge) for the last 21 years. I am self-employed, and I have a pretty flexible schedule during the day, during the week - and I MAY be able to get together on weekends as well. I am a GOOD amateur musician and love to play with other singers and musicians at numerous jams around the Bay Area - mostly on the weekends.

If you are looking for another kind of person, I wish you good luck on your journey!!! But thanks for reading this, and considering what I have written.

I hope I’ve piqued your interest... At least enough to start a dialog! I look forward to your reply!

If it feels comfortable to both of us communicating online, the next logical step is to talk on the phone, and then meet some place where we can talk without too many distractions. This could be in a public arena like a park, coffee shop or whatever (though being seen in public has it’s own risks), or perhaps in our cars at a viewpoint where we can sit or walk by the bay or ocean - wherever you are comfortable.

For our first meeting, I'd like to talk and get to know each other a bit, and hopefully have fun and just enjoy our time together! I’d like to learn about you and your situation, and I’m willing to share as well. Of course there has to be a mutual attraction and a comfortable level of trust - and an agreement by both parties on any “ground rules.” After that, we’ll just have to see how it goes... but I'd LOVE it if we can grow into a mutually beneficial relationship together!