I've only been this site for maybe a year. I've met a few people. But what is it really all about? Is there a plot in meeting the right person? Are people looking for what they had previously? lets be real here. There seems to be the young, who don't really know what they want. Then there's the older, who seem still seem to be stuck in neutral finding it hard to decide whether someone is good for them. We've all had our share of date flops. I'll share one date, went well. had coffee and conversation. But didn't pan-out because I didn't drink and party. ( should of put that one in my profile.) But do people actually put the real "them" in their profiles? I do admire the ones who are straightforward. No chance of dull prizes in that box of Cracker-Jacks. But still, we will get prizes in life that we didn't plan on getting. I shouldn't compair a box of Cracker-Jacks to a relation-ship, but seems to be how is is some-times. If you relate some-what to this, then you're either a victim, or you're a perpetrator. Me? I'm real. Yes, the road can be harder for some. But what you do to make it right is called survival. It seems after meeting someone, a profile can get longer. But that's not what it's about. It takes several meetings to see what someone is about. Me, I go generally on personality. I don't mean to rattle on, but we meet to see if there's elements of compatibility. We take it from there.
Starting over.
46 going on 47. being on a site such as this one, people are looking for what they didn't have in their previous relationship. What are people looking for? Are standards that high? For me, I don't have high standards. I hope that doesn't sound wrong. I as well as other people need to understand that we have experiences that place us where we are. It can cause confusion as we seek that other whether it be your prince on a white stallion, or that simple guy that understands what it means to be in a relationship with another person. I for one can relate to others when it comes to understanding where one is at the present. My experiences as well as the experiences' of others have placed us where we are and we are either looking for that other to take the place of the past avoiding it as the past will slowly creep upon you and place you where you once was,or we are seeking anew coming to our senses. I've had my down hill tumbles. I for one understand that people respond differently to situations. As a psychology major, I understand that people have psychosocial experiences. We either deal with them and pull up our bootstraps, or we drink them, or smoke them away. But that's temporary. I can proudly state that although my experiences had me tumbling, I never developed a substance abuse issue, but I do deal with others who have. I'm the type of person who does understand. And like most, I will stumble here and there for I am human just as you are. I am not perfect either. But I can,do and will communicate. I'm not 100% sure about these sites, but it's a method of communication and meeting others. I don't bar, nor do I club. Should I meet another that communicates and is seeking something different, then its a start. Gotta think outside the box..
I will be as real as I can in my intro.
I was brought into the world a male, but I was raised by the school of hard knocks. Through it all, I encountered bad influences, but I rose above it all and became a suitable conductive member of society. Although the hard knocks lead me down many paths of interest, I knew that I wanted to help people. I settled in the health care field working with geriatric. Further down the road, I came to a fork that lead me to my other interest. EMT. After feasting on that field, although somewhat satisfying, I knew there was more. I knew that education was the solution that would aid me in deciding. Still wanting to work with people and help them, I truly felt deeper down that I wanted to give back.Perhaps part of me wanted to show the world, or at least as much of it as I could, how the present race should treat one another.
It wasn't until my 20th year of nursing that a friend, and colleague got me interested as well as employed with the school dist working with learning disabled autistic children. It was then I knew...
Previously having finished my degree in special education, I ventured full time into the world of teaching.
5 years later, not only had I found what it is that I should be doing, I was approached with notices that the state needs full time qualified teachers. So, to this date, through the county, they are sending me through the needed stepping stones to have my degree in special ed.
I feel that one needs to experience life in order to achieve their epiphany.
If you have read this far, great.
To continue, these experiences have lead me to know how I should act and respond to other people. Although I am searching for that special person, I do know how I should act as well as respond to people and situations. I have to refer to this as the psychosocial factor. I do like psychology. I feel that I can best get to know people as well as how to understand and respond to them. I do feel that respect is the common denominator here. To make a long story longer, I hope if you have read this far, that you might have an idea of what I am like and that should make it easier to know me. I know that these sites can be a joke sometimes. One does need to be careful.
I am someone who is honest, sincere and can communicate without prejudice. Communicate, respect and compromise.
The picture is recent.
The serious side of me could be compared to Sean Connery, or as silly as the people in my cousin Vinnie..
I like to read, write and listen to music. Playing guitar is a hobby..

A first date should be low key. Just get to know each other. Talk and look for common grounds. Some of one's common interest lay just below the surface.
Then, other activities can be generated..