Hi,
I've been staying in NY for the past year. I will be in Florida for the next few months and would like to have some companionship while in Boca. If something really good happens, I am open for more. Peace and love to all.

I wanted to write a book on internet dating, but I figured more people might read this than a book. Here are some basic observations...Profiles don’t mean anything. It’s a self-description…duh. If it were up to me, you should have to get three ex-spouses/boyfriends/girlfriends to write your profile. Then we’d know the real you/me. Reading online profiles is funny. Everyone likes the same stuff. The entire world is “down to earth” and “attractive” and “likes the outdoors” and “loves to travel”. I had to stop going to the beach because it's been so overcrowded with people who have met on the internet. For me, relationships begin and end with the chemistry between us. That X factor that no one really understands. In the real world you meet first. That way you know if there is any attraction. On the internet you meet last. We can even give each other great phone and when you meet….nothing. Also, why do people lie on these sites? If you are lying about your age, marital status, height, weight…it’s going to come out soon enough. Why do some people put pictures from 10 years ago? I ain’t no idiot and will figure that one out soon enough too. I have a personal policy…if you lie on your profile…a simple test of honesty, you will probably lie about other things much more important later on. Another point about pictures…the most frustrating pics are the ones from 100’ away (huh?). Finally, why do people take it so personally when you tell them there is no connection? If I feel anything, I will try to go on a second date with you. If there is nothing, there is no point. I appreciate it when a woman is honest with me and tells me there is no connection for her. Why waste time (yours or mine)? NEXT! We are all looking for that twin flame/soul mate/the one….I have settled in the past and will never do it again. I want it all. Don’t you? Just have fun out there for now.

Describing yourself is like talking about someone you admire. You want to be complementary, but you don't want to drool all over them either. I like me. I'm not perfect (far from it), but enjoy life immensely. I consider myself very fortunate that at this point most days have been a lot of fun and consider it to be blessed (some call it luck). I have also worked very hard for what has been accomplished. I think my good points outweigh my (very few) negatives. They say two positives can never equal a negative....yea, right. Laughter is the key...and I do spend a lot of time laughing. After all, this world is a pretty funny place. I don't live life outside the box, I say, "What box?"

I was born in Brooklyn (turdy-turd street) and raised on Long Island. I have lived all over the US. Yea, I’ve been to all 50 states over the years. I have been fortunate enough to have lived from the Florida Keys to Oregon and from NY to San Diego. In my younger daze (pun intended), I was into traveling around and living in different spots. I never thought I would live in NY again. But here I am. Why? Well, that would take at least a 16 oz latte to explain. I will tell you this much. Until August of ‘08, I had lived out in the woods of Southern Oregon for the past 17 years and loved every minute of it. I miss the solitude of being in nature. Having my morning coffee out on the deck, feeding the deer. Watching my neighbor, a fox, come into my compost pile at dusk to eat. Looking out at the snow capped peaks with a 360 panoramic view. Walking in the woods where the complete silence was deafening. It was a great experience. I am ready to find another spot somewhere to build another life. This time it would be nice to have a partner to share it.

I've also had many careers. Why is that the second thing people ask each other is when they meet is "what do you do?". When answering that question in the past (after the usual evasive "I do quite well"), I think teacher got the most respect, but business consultant got the funniest looks...you know, that slight head tilt that shows utter confusion. Bartending in my late 20's was a lot of fun, but in the end working for yourself is always the most rewarding. I've done that several times.

My spiritual beliefs are most important (to me), but I don't go around talking about them. I just try to live it. I try to experience as much of life as possible. I believe we should be able to choose our own paths in life so long as we don't threaten or harm each other. One of my mottoes in life is "Your opinion of me is none of my business." Bottom line is that nobody is perfect and I am the perfect example of that. I am a much better person now than when I was younger, but I am a work in progress. I can listen. Life is a learning experience. The desire is to become a better human being at all times. My life is a spiritual journey to seek the truth in all matters. I do not get caught up in the material world. I know that the most important things in life aren’t things. I need a woman who wants to talk about the metaphysical aspects of life. I don't believe in coincidence. Everything happens for a reason. Karma baby…

What am I looking for? Yes, I am a hopeful romantic. But I am also a realist. For me finding that elusive spiritual connection is the toughest part. I'm always willing to try...I feel better now that we have that passion connected. Was it good for you? BTW, this profile was written by my ex-wife and two ex-girlfriends...yea, right.

When I was younger, first dates were fun and important for me. I always figured I'd better make them memorable, just in case we stayed together. But, let's face it, this is internet dating...I equate it to shopping at Costco. You're walking down the aisle and all these people are on the shelves, wanting to get into your cart. Meanwhile, you are on a shelf on aisle 5 and all these other folks are walking by, deciding whether you should be in their cart. And the last thing you want when you put someone in your cart is a price check. There are some advantages to this wholesale dating format. You can compare brands to get best purchase and highest quality. Another good thing is all returns are gladly accepted.

It's insane, but because of that you can do something simple like have coffee or a drink, decide there is no chemistry and there are no hard feelings. Then there's that other possibility...

And when that happens...clean up on aisle 7.
When and if the magic occurs, it will all sort out at the checkout stand.