I'm a good man with a nice home in Chesterfield, a nice car, yada yada, all the trappings of success but I do not have anyone to share it with.

I am 6', clean cut, average build with blue eyes and a nice smile. The pic was taken in June 07 while in Alaska. I'm off to the Caribbean in December. I am 6' tall and 230 pounds so I'm not exactly "small" but if you like the big teddy bear type, I'm your guy.

I am the easy-going, quiet type and like 60's to 90's music, being outside, working around the house and cooking. I enjoy helping my friends and neighbors and feel that the real measure of a man's worth is the respect of his friends.

I like to cook but I never follow a recipe. I find them too confining. I would rather see what I have in the cupboard and figure out what I can combine to create a delicious meal. I've been told I'm a good cook. I must not be too bad since I'm 230, eh?

I do not lie, cheat, or steal. Quite frankly, I'm just not smart enough to do that. One lie begets another then another until... I don't play games either. I say what I mean. While I am fiercely independent, I certainly know how to stop and ask directions and yes, I do.

Here's a little about what I'm looking for and what I'm NOT looking for. First, I'm looking for someone stable. If you're going thru a divorce or have some other major social trauma in your life, I'm not your guy. We all have our little daily problems but if you've got a lot of major things going on in your life, take the time to get those squared away. I'll be around.

I'm also looking for someone who is a bit of a "girly-girl" at times. I'm not going to hold your purse while you get your nails, hair, etc. done but I don't mind taking you there and picking you up. Also, if you are looking for a MAN (flannel shirts and all), then be prepared to look like a woman at times, ok? Jeans are fine but there are times when a dress and heels are appropriate and I'm not talking about work.

I'm also not looking to support someone and their children. That's not my place. I know some very nice women out there may be thinking "he just shot himself in the foot with that one" but I've run across LOTS of women that think just because they are dating someone, it is HIS responsibility to start taking care of their kids. Um, no.

I love coffee! There is nothing like that first sip of freshly-ground coffee in the morning! If you don't like the smell of coffee in the morning, I'm not your guy.

I am constantly surprised at the number of people I run across that smoke. I grew up in a house full of smokers and I can't count the number of times I found cigarette ashes in my food as a kid. No wonder I was so skinny! Needless to say, I'm not looking for someone that smokes.

If you smoke a little pot once in a while, I'm not your guy. If you smoke it more than once in a while, I'm REALLY not your guy. I have ZERO tolerance for that stuff. I've never done it and I'm not going to have anything to do with anyone that does.

I am looking for someone that is average. What is average? Average is someone that could stand to lose a few pounds, not fifty. If you've got rolls (and I'm not talking about the kind you have for dinner) I'm not your guy. If you've ever been about to board a plane and been asked to buy more than one ticket, I'm not your guy. If your idea of fun is running a few miles, I'm not your guy. If I need to get somewhere, I'll drive. If you would rather snuggle on the couch and watch a movie on a rainy day, I reeeeeeaaaally want to talk to you!

One last thing. What ever happened to proper spelling and grammar? I find intelligent women interesting. If you run spell-check on your profile and you start getting suggested corrections, I'm probably not your guy. If you ran spell (and grammar) checks on your profile before you posted it, kudos to you! Let's see where this goes...

If you're looking for a handyman, mechanic, comic, or sugar-daddy, good luck. If you are looking for a good, decent, honest, stable man who is looking for a relationship, I'm here.

I'm not flashy, just very stable. I am looking for only one woman with whom I can respect and develop a relationship.

If that interests you, you know what to do.

Now that I've gotten that out of my system, the coffee is ready. Mmmmmmm!

My idea of a good first date is something light yet a little intimate, perhaps coffee or just talking, getting to know each other.