I am divorced with kids, which in dating is usually the scarlet. I have been divorced for six years, and no really crushing break-ups have occurred in those six years, although I feel that there are no ill effects to my personality. I am not bitter, or jilted. Sure, I have had boyfriends, but well, not really into the drama of breaking up, or the dating rules, like the “can’t call for two days unless he calls….” It is all too much to remember. Most of the men I have seen, or dated, in the last decade still are talking to me.

In the last five years I have earned an AA in liberal arts, a BA in history: ancient and medieval, and now in the final stages of an MS in Education. I am a schoolteacher. I was working in a private school teaching history to 4th, 5th, 6th and 7th and 8th grade, but private does not pay well, so going to the dark side and teaching public next year. I am now working on my thesis proposal (all offers to proofread are taken seriously). I will graduate by Christmas.

Not sure what men think they are going to get on a free personal web page, but I have never had a career in modeling, not sporting an athletic body type, I am active and workout in a gym even. I eat regularly and eat what I want (I am a great cook). I am attractive in a sweet way, simple and cute even. As for my age, well my shelf life seems to be past due. I am 36 and feel that I have crossed a bridge, and as I look back in retrospect, I see the headless equestrian guarding the other side lest I should want to cross back over for a bit of youngish fun. Oh, I have male friends, as well as female friends, but the difference between the two is hardly noticeable. My girlfriends and guy friends retell their latest and greatest escapades, which I seriously doubt. I get the token, “ I’ll do ya” from my male friends, to which I am not entirely sure as how to respond, gratitude maybe? I have been on what shall we call them, interviews for relationships out in the OC and before that the UCR area when I was at college out there, but those are all getting boring. I am sure I am going about this the wrong way.

What I am is bored and worried. I just moved to the desert to finish my masters, from Orange County, and had forgotten how incredibility isolated I am here. I am worried that there are no eligible men, i.e., not married already, who are looking for a long-term relationship and have all their teeth and maybe some intelligence. Teeth, intelligence, and eligible are necessary. lol Don’t get me wrong, I am real gal with real needs. I am glad to have sex and it comes easy to me (pun totally intended as well as the double entendre), although not usually within the first few months. I can even, if truly in love, and were persuaded, have PDA. I am a loyal and nice person, if a little weird or entertaining at times.

This is my real life and I treat it as such. I am not so caviler that I can make huge mistakes because these are not mine alone to make (the two boys that I am mother of). At some point, I want the worse thing imaginable; A long-term relationship, which would optimally over a few years lead to a marriage, if all parties agreed. There I have said it, my dirty secret. Although, I will say that for this horrid deed that partner in crime would get a great love, which comes with attention, friendship, home, sweetness and a tender ear Not really a hot commodity these days. I am a fabulously great person whom most love and say they are genuinely improved in their lives for me being in it.

Now I am pretty certain that you didn’t want a description of this magnitude, but well better safe then sorry. I do have a lot to say and usually say it i.e., this description, so much blah blah blah, but on the off chance that this isn’t totally uninteresting, please give me a shout. I would love chat with you.

My ideal first date might start with a drink. We all have busy days and a drink is easy and stress free. Now if you are having drinks and the mood is great and you want to spend more time together, then don’t offer up sex in her back seat, but instead suggest that the date continues. Here are my top five suggestions:

If you want a place to really get to know more about me/her then the beach is the place. The beach is the perfect way to enjoy the sunset and for some reason women get all romantic at the beach and will be more inclined to like you (has to do with the lighting). Plus there are always lots of places to eat around there and a nice late dinner over candle light will have me/her melting in your hands.

Mini golf is good if you are looking to tickle my/her fancy. It is cheap and easy and allows for the physical contact that comes with total at ease situations. I always need help with my aim and a good deal for a guy to set up for a little spoon on fly action.

Although first dates should emphasize conversation, I will suggest a concert/show of her favorite band. This is a huge leap and should only be pulled out if a) you can afford it and want her to know it and b) if you intend to see her again, on a long term bases.

Along the same lines as the concert/show is the amusement park. Yeah pricey and we know it. Unlike the lack of conversation at the concert/ show option, you can have great conversations in an amusement park. This options shows her that you can engage in childish fun and for the single mom that’s a huge step in the right direction. Again this would be for those men who can afford it and really want me/she to know that they have that kind of income at their disposal. Sure it is a showy first date, but d*mn who ever said showy isn’t great.

Now for all those guys who are saying that they can’t come up with dates on that level, I don’t blame you. The good news is that you don’t need to mortgage your home to really make a play. It can all be had with a simple quiet get together that allows for stimulating conversation, such as a picnic. This would be your opportunity to showoff your skills and expertise. Flowers, food (home made or take out), wine ( really tasty good one), and music in a really beautiful place is a great first date. We women are conditioned to believe that men can’t be sensitive. Proving us wrong makes us hot for you.

These are not by any means all the date ideas that are great. A movie and dinner is still a great date and coffee instead of drinks is fine too (coffee can be a morning drink and if you feel really positive about this girl a good way to string the day along is to start early).

Live in United States
Must not be looking for Hang Out
Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail
Must not be looking for Other Relationship
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be looking for Activity Partner
Must not do drugs
Must not be married