NOTE:
I chose "Dating" (for what I'm looking for) since it's what we have to do to see if we want that Long-Term relationship with someone, which is what I ultimately want. That being said, I don't want to rush into anything and even though most people have done it at one time or another in their lives I think you can't put a time frame on a "relationship" if its going to be something that is real...

Now, back to our regularly scheduled program:
I've learned ALOT (with alot more to go) in my short time on earth. Just a few follow below (to learn more you have to get to know me): First, I AM looking for something special with the RIGHT WOMAN. As lovers we should share passion, communication, and chemistry. As friends we should share peace, support, and compassion. As a couple we should communicate our hopes, dreams, fears, and insecurities, and share our successes and failures. Next, in all things, it boils down to balance: give and take. Can you give as much as you can take? There's a saying in Mexico, "Hoy por ti, manana por mi," meaning today for you, tomorrow for me. Also, I really love to sing-- and I give incredible massages (if you're lucky you get both at the same time). Love ballads are my specialty in English, Italian, and Spanish. As the George Michael song goes: "Please be stronger than your past, the future may still give you a chance." How many issues you have is not the problem-- how you handle them is. Consider this: a duck sits in water all day and barely gets wet (even if its raining) but a catfish prefers to stay at the bottom in the mud and never stays dry. Which one are you? Finally, I'm a man accustomed to making the impossible possible. For me and for others. After spending almost 6 years of my life as a officer and flier in our nation's Navy I'm used to achieving whatever I set out to do. So if I see something I want I go straight after it. In between working on feature films/commercials (my last big project was as an entry-level Asst. Director on "2 Fast 2 Furious", in Miami Beach) I work for a County Law Enforcement Agency and attend the world famous Groundlings School of Improvisational Acting (Professional Actor Training Program). That's a handful for a single father like me but all in a day's work. But enough about me...

REAL TALK (if you're not ready for this portion, stop reading now)-- personally, I think all relationships should start as friends (of some kind or another) as you get to know each other... that's why you "date" UNTIL you're sure you're with the right person for a long-term relationship. It avoids putting all the arbitrary limits and obligations (be they sex, money, or time) on a person and allows you to "really" get to know them. Think of it this way: how long did it take you to get to know your closest friend(s)? I bet it was longer than 1-3 dates worth of time. If a person has a "relationship only" mindset (be it long term or otherwise) they often think, "lets see if I can get to know this person in 30 words or less" instead of getting to know them organically over time. Its unnatural. That might work when you're pitching a movie script but not when you're dating, particularly if you're looking for your "life's mate". Then people have the nerve to complain that they don't know their spouses, partners, and lovers-- no wonder-- they tried to speed through the discovery process and instead trust their innate ability to "interrogate" someone adequately enough to know "everything" they need to know about them in the shortest amount of time humanly possible. C'mon now, people. GET REAL. That's e-harmony style thinking. Wrong site. Change the way you think-- make your expectations realistic if you want something real. FAKENESS breeds FAKENESS.

And oh yes, they say every woman wants to be spoiled-- well I want someone that I can spoil not with materialistic things but with things that will make you feel special and truly loved (things no other man has ever or would ever give you or do for you)... can you feel me?


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As a friend of mine likes to say, "if it ain't love, its hate. If it ain't real, its fake."

Peace to you all and good luck in your search....

You need to go out with me to find out and it varies from woman to woman.