I think the most important attitude in a great relationship is that it will work best if both people thrive by giving as much devotion as they receive. If that's the case, it can be so fulfilling. In the right relationship, knowing that the other loves you so much makes you feel so much better about yourself and also helps you keep your self-doubts, etc in perspective. A lot of the women reading this profile may well have been on this site for a long time without lightning striking. It appears that as we grow older, we don’t necessarily grow wiser. There are so many people with ambivalent feelings about becoming involved – yes they’re lonely and want that connection – but at the same time the thought of complicating their lives makes them shudder. I think it’s a shame because if one is determined, they can “have their cake and eat it, too.” It takes some courage, I’ll grant you, but it’s worth it. I read a lot of profiles where the woman says she wants to avoid “baggage.” We all do, but at what cost? I’m looking for a loving and caring person, not an empty trunk. I think the right mix makes life so much better. I’ve had a pretty interesting job for a long time. I’m an attorney and work full time from home writing the Jury Verdict Review - newsletters for lawyers about verdicts and settlements. With some of the more interesting cases, I write a commentary. Working from home has also allowed me to better juggle my professional life with the raising of my son, who just graduated high school. He’ll be going to college next year, but living home. I’ve given this a lot of thought and would just as well not get involved with someone who felt the presence of a college freshman in the house constituted “baggage.” I certainly can respect someone who looks at things differently, but that person wouldn’t make a good partner for me. You’re out there somewhere and one of these days, you’re going to read this profile.

I think a first meeting should entail something casual - perhaps getting a bite to eat. If we feel a connection, we can plan a date for the near future.