So let me ask you a hypothetical question if I may. You’re given two choices. Option one is to go over to someone you’ve never met before, a complete stranger chosen at random and talk to them. Option two is to address a random crowd of a thousand people on the topic of your choosing. Which would you take? I’m not a mind reader and I haven’t done any surveys, but I think I’d be right if most people were to pick option one. I know that I wouldn’t. I’d address the crowd without any problem whatsoever, but the thought of just going up to someone (especially if it’s a lady) actually scares me a bit.

So what does that say about me? Maybe I’m shallow because speaking with one single person involves having to be more sincere, more genuine. With many people you can put on a sort of mask and put on show or whatever. But I know that isn’t the case. I’m always honest while remaining tactful, I actually listen to people AND pay attention to what they’re saying, not to mention the fact that I actually care about what they’re saying. So I guess it might have something to do with the fact that I’m really very shy. No one believes me when I tell them this though. Since I’m polite, friendly and articulate, I guess I don’t come across that way, so people assume that I must be a real extrovert. They’re wrong though, not like I blame anyone or think less of them. I’m sure I’d fool myself as well.

Now why am I writing all of this instead of talking about my favourite bands or sports or what I look for in a woman or my dreams and goals? I’m not trying to be different for the sake of being different, not at all. I just don’t feel like talking about those things, because even though I could and know the answers to them, I don’t think they’re as important. This just makes more sense to me and while it probably makes me look too vulnerable, I don’t care. For the longest time I’ve also felt the need to ‘dumb down’ my profile. I don’t mean to say that people reading it are idiots, not at all. I was just afraid that I’d also come across as boring or too serious or a number of other things. Over MSN or whatever I’ve been asked why I begin every sentence with capital letters and why I bother with punctuation and all that. My only answer to that would be “because that’s how you’re supposed to write”. Sure I make mistakes, all the time. But I think it’s important to make the effort, at the very least.

So that’s it. If this makes me seem arrogant or self-righteous or anything like that, I’m sorry you feel that way because it isn’t the case at all. Putting other people down, for any reason isn’t something I don’t have much use for. Sort of like when someone is singing (and they shouldn’t be) and someone says “don’t quit your day job” (ha ha ha). I’d never say that to someone, even if it were true. I’ve had it said to me and I know for a fact that I’m strong singer. I also know that I’m a nice guy and that isn’t always a good thing. So many times I get frustrated and think that women would prefer a confident ***hole to a nice guy who happens to be a bit shy. But I still have faith that isn’t always the case. Having said all this, I’m by no means a saint or anything close. At times I can be petty, selfish, forgetful and thoughtless. Anyone who thinks otherwise of themselves is full of shit. But do try the best I can and I think that counts for something.

If you’re still here, that probably means you’re awesome. Drop me a line if you’d like, just please have a picture, don’t use “hey” or “hello” as your subject line and please do not weigh more than I do. Fitness is important. And I’ll promise to be a lot funnier in the future. After sitting through all this, you’ve earned it! Don’t worry, I’m normally a riot. Seriously. I have very good writers.

Talk. Then go from there. Really, how else do should two people communicate? It doesn't matter where or what, does it? With the right person it doesn't make much of a difference what the event or location or whatever is. You probably know that already, even if you don't know it.

So I'd love to go somewhere and talk, then decide what to do next. All those things it tells you to talk about when filling this out (hobbies, music, goals, etc.) aren't things you should find out from reading a form or whatever. They're things you figure out along the way, they come up when they come up.

Or bowling. Bowling is always fun.