| | I shot an arrow into the air
The place it fell I know not where
I cast my line into the sea
But POF is still a mystery....
Interests shared on every page
Travel mates to be engaged
Without baggage from the past
To find a love that will last
Navigating this online sea
Love comes not easily
Perhaps I should be looking for
A love I find inside of me
ABOUT ME:
Some of my passions include reading, movies, music. I particularly like books that give me insight into the world and myself. I enjoy photography and making slideshows with music. I also enjoy physical activities at a relaxed pace such as walking, running, cycling, cross-country skiing. I like being in nature. I would like to find a partner for beginner-level ballroom dancing lessons. Although I've not yet traveled much, I would like to see Paris.
I value a positive outlook, a healthy and balanced lifestyle, a reasonably frugal lifestyle, self-awareness, creativity, simplicity.
I am a shy, nervous person. While I enjoy adventure on occasion, I generally prefer quiet over noisy, small groups over crowds, familiarity over novelty, character movies over suspense movies. I appreciate people who have a similar temperament and who enjoy a little adventure on occasion.
I am a late bloomer. I have been single for many of my adult years. About ten years ago I realized the isolation and the lack of emotional depth in my life. Since then, I have been trying to live a deeper, more meaningful life.
I am looking for friendship and to enjoy common interests such as movies or dance lessons or cross-country skiing to name a few possibilities.
POSTSCRIPT:
Inner happiness
In our culture happiness is usually defined externally (money, possessions, career, status, love, etc). We are seldom urged to look inside of ourselves.
In the movie "Groundhog Day", the main character, Phil Conners, is forced to re-live the same cold winter day over and over and over again. Needless to say, he quickly realizes the meaninglessly of his daily repetitive existence. Nothing appears to have any real consequence; Phil is faced with living his eternal existence in boredom. Eventually, however, Phil does find a deeper satisfaction to his existence by being true to himself and others, by accepting reality, by developing an appreciation of real beauty, by the selfless pleasure of making others happy, by selfless love. A nice message from a simple Hollywood movie starring Bill Murray and Andie MacDowell. Are your days starting to feel a little repetitive?
I remember listening to Joseph Campbell, who appeared on PBS series called "The Power of Myth". At one point, Campbell mentions a sermon of the Buddha where the Buddha simply lifted a flower. I paraphrase Campbell: "It's not the search for meaning but the experience of the flower, that is, of just 'being' that is beautiful. What's the meaning of a flower? What's the meaning of the universe? What's the meaning of a flea? It's just there. We're so engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value that we forget the inner value, the rapture that is associated with just being alive."
Love and truth
Self-awareness is achieved by being true to one's self. Often it's not big secrets that we keep from ourselves. Rather it's a shell we grow over the years from a thousand little cuts. After a while, identifying with the shell becomes more important than the cuts most of which have long been forgotten. I consider being true to one's self to be the lifelong effort of peeling back layers of truth always to find another layer, a deeper, more authentic self. In a relationship, we can only be as open and honest with another as we are with ourselves.
After reading many profiles on POF, I've noted that many people are searching for soulmates. In my opinion, real intimacy is based on open emotional honesty about ourselves. I do not mean the reoccurring patterns of emotional reactions that evolve within our relationships. Rather, it's our deeper emotions in which we reveal our fears and vulnerabilities. This involves risk and trust. In a new relationship, it's easier to open up. Risk is lower, trust is higher. As our attachment increases and our infatuation decreases, however, our vulnerability grows. Since we live in a society that values strength, we are naturally inclined to ignore or deny our vulnerability. Perhaps the search for a soulmate is really the search for our courage and trust.
When it comes to love and happiness, I struggle with these issues like everyone else. I find it comforting to write out my views and ideals. If anyone cares to share, please do.
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