NOTE: I'd committed the (apparently) cardinal sin of joining pof and listing my profile as "intimate encounters" and sending a couple messages a looong time ago (which seemed, at the time, a reasonable place to start) and I can't message half of you out there who have message rules about people who engage in such tasteless behaviour (shame on them!) If you find my profile interesting and realize I can't message you due to your rules and want to give me a chance to repent my earlier transgressions, please send me a message!

I am a professional in Toronto looking for an attractive, intelligent, kind, outgoing woman who is in decent shape (ie - not "a few extra pounds" or "big and tall", or out of shape - no disrespect, just what turns me on physically - I'd like to be attracted to my match and vice versa) and who treats others with courtesy and appreciates a unique mind. If you love conversation, wit, or knowledge, all the better, as I am a big fan of all three. I’m also told that I’m a good source of ideas and trivia on culture, history, psychology, and such but they might be just messing with my head.....

If you have a sense of humour, you’ll get along better with me than otherwise, and I’d rather you get along with me. Love to talk about anything that involves us learning, from anthropology to movies, from spirituality to relationships, really anything......

My honest approach to relationships is that I'd love a woman to sweep me off my feet and make me want to ride her off into the sunset (or if not her, then a horse...... maybe with her), but this is also the *real* world. While I'm waiting for destiny to come knocking I don't see any human reason to be lonely. In fact, that would be silly to me. I also don't believe that every woman I like is the hand of destiny! I just stay open to possibilities and try to not put people in boxes. I am not the type of guy who'll say what's popular or cool, but I'll say what I think. I don't think conversation should be about agreeing with each other all the time, and I don't think disagreement should be the cause of an argument. I just like ideas and thoughts, and some of them are bound to be ones I couldn't agree with. Sometimes those are the best kinds! I'm not going to lie to impress you. If I'm not enough to impress you, the last thing I want to find out is that a lie rates higher than me!

I am tall, fit, outgoing, articulate, possess integrity and I love to laugh and make others laugh. I have a very stable personality: sociable gentleman outdoors, intellectually curious always, sensual in private (not with everyone!) I am really pretty sex-positive overall, and I don't see sex as a shame or a game or a conquest, or even as an unworthy object, but as really one of the greatest creative opportunities man and woman are born with. Now all this doesn't mean sex is all that motivates me (or else I would never have written this whole profile), I have loads of interest in all different aspects of life. Apparently, I am even a bit of a feminist, I guess. Strange huh? But that doesn't prevent me from thoroughly enjoying intimacy with a real woman (ie- personality, mind, integrity and all), it adds to it.

I am not looking for a mother, daughter or wife. I cook my own food, clean and do my own laundry, so I don't need a woman to do that for me. I'm looking for someone interested in exchanging ideas, thoughts, energies and seeing what strange chemistry it makes..... sometimes you find the most unexpected things in the most surprising places.... I have been called a lot of things, but I've never been called selfish, shallow or lazy (or stupid). That applies both in thought, in person and in bed. I am usually looking for the truth behind things, and generally look at "things" as SOME part of the truth, if ya dig....... If we followed our most honest words, thoughts, looks, kisses and touches, where would we end up? *Probably not on POF!*

Disclaimer (I got this idea from someone else, not stealing, just borrowing) - I'm actually 34, not 31. I don't look or feel 34, and in real life, nobody's ever told me that I was 2 or 3 years outside their dating range. But the real reason I changed my age (I originally signed up with my actual age) was that a lot of women in the age range I usually date seem to put their pof cut off points at 33 or 32 instead of 34, so I'm just playing it safe and making sure I can at least message a woman if I feel to. If my age is a problem for you, you are now informed, so please feel free to not date me! Happy fishing.....

Just to be totally clear, if you have a message rule that says Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex, I'm not allowed to message you.....

LAST NOTE: if you tend to get into heated arguments often, or "get pissed off", you wouldn't like talking with me....... and if you rely on your good looks to keep people interested in you, you gotta remember you're not alone, there are a lot of beautiful women in Toronto. Why not bring more to the table than just that? It's a great start, but a poor finish.....


.....As you were.

First Date: Exchange thoughts and gauge attraction

Second Date: Exchange attraction and gauge thoughts

Hopefully: Find something that brings us back effortlessly

Possibly: Oh don't jinx it.......