Latest news:
I completed the 150 mile ride and train hard each spring and fall. I do not ride in the cold. I had Lasik eye surgry, wow I can see. My youngest just left for college so I am an empty nester.

Now about me:
I help create two wonderful boys whom I had full custody, ages 18 and 22. I wear size 32-34 waist pants (holidays you know lol) and have all my hair even though it has been grey since 25.

Let’s start with my heart is huge but my writing ability is lacking so here goes. I firmly believe in love at first sight. I know this for my heart stops, I can’t talk and when I do something stupid comes out. At that moment a mental image of her becomes imbedded in my mind and I will always see her in that way.

About her:
She would feel comfortable in casual jeans to sexy outfits. She does not have to be a Barbie for chemistry can come in the form of a smile or a look that could melt my panties, whoops I mean manly boxers. Two things must then happen, she must feel the same way if feel for her and we never stop communicating. I am not looking for someone who expects me to buy her all the things she wants nor promise we will never have disagreements. What I can give is the greatest gift, the gift of ever lasting 100% dedicated unmatched devotion.

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Relationship Test Results and Suggested Questions
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Interdependence: you need someone who responds to the fact that you enjoy the reassurance of physical contact and emotional sharing, but who helps keeps dependency in check in the relationship so that you two do not lose your identities as individuals and whose character is deserving of your loyalty and affection.

“What degree of possessiveness do you think is healthy in a relationship?”

“Tell me all about your philosophy or view on PDAs (‘Public Displays of Affection’) “

“On any typical night out with your friends, would you prefer to have your partner there with you or not?”

Intimacy: you need someone who believes and acts on the belief that the intimacy of a relationship is sacred.

“Under what circumstances do you think it is okay for someone to discuss details of his/her relationship with family or friends?”

“What type of issues would you talk to your friends or family about before sharing with your partner?”

“Do you think couples should have access to each other’s bank accounts, email accounts, calendars and basically all personal information?”

Self-Efficacy: you need someone who is extremely supportive of your goals by showing patience and a positive outlook and who also frequently acknowledges and praises your small and large accomplishments.

“Do people need to fish for compliments from you, or are you the kind of person who frequently gives spontaneous acknowledgments and praise to others?”

“What are the most important responsibilities in a friendship?”

Relationship readiness: you need someone who will be patient and supportive as you figure out your needs rather than who will rush the relationship prematurely.

“What are the most important responsibilities you have to a romantic partner?”

“Do you feel offended or rejected when a partner asks for time, space or privacy to take care of some personal business?”

Communication: you need someone who seeks to understand you, thereby accepting an equal share of responsibility in maintaining open and honest communication in the relationship.

“Do you tend to ask your romantic partner questions when you suspect s/he is upset, or is it more comfortable for you simply to allow them space to work it out alone?”

“Do you prefer to talk through issues in the heat of the moment, or approach your partner after you have had time to cool off and think about how best to explain what is on your mind?”

“Which sounds like a more appealing way to spend some free time: going out to see friends with your partner or staying alone at home with your partner talking about each other?”

Conflict Resolution: you need someone who will join you in taking time to find a complete and genuine resolution to issues as opposed to avoiding conflict by settling for quick, temporary agreements.

“Does it help you to solve problems by thinking of your own past experiences and knowledge in new ways?”

“In your experience, does knowing too much about a problem hinder or help you resolve it?”

Sexuality: you need someone who regards sex as a meaningful bond between people in love and who appreciates being the center of attention in the bedroom.

Attitudes Toward Love: you need someone who believes that the best kind of love grows out of a strong friendship.

“In your opinion, how can a couple overcome differences on issues like religion, ethnicity, politics or social class?”

Preferred Expressions of Affection: You need someone who can express affection through tangible surprises. This does not necessarily mean that you neither like nor need Actions. Rather, it suggests that you need someone who feels that simple or grand acts of kindness are no substitutes for other expressions of affection – such as telling you how they feel, treating you like a partner, touching you lovingly, spending time with you or remembering special occasions with a thoughtful gift.

"Is it more like you to surprise a partner with single, extravagant gifts or shower the person with little gifts or surprises here and there?"

"Do you think giving gifts is really just an attempt to buy someone’s affection?"

"In what ways – if any – do you like for a partner to depend on you?"

"What are some things you have done for other people that they would say were the most thoughtful?"

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Food for thought[b]
In the beginning there was only one human. And this human was "created perfection." The strange thing was that this first "created perfection" human had all the "necessary" male parts, as well as having all the "necessary" female parts. This perfect human was then tragically split apart – and since then, the two halves (male parts and female parts) have been forever searching for one another in order to join together and regain their sense of original created wholeness. Plato from the Symposium "A soul mate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace. This kind of relationship is so important to the soul that many have said there is nothing more precious in life." Thomas Moore The real danger in this line of thinking is that many people mistake a storm of emotion as the identifying mark