If you take great comfort in always doing the same routine things, just block my profile now – we're not compatible.

Sometimes quiet, sometimes loud, I've never been too easy to pigeonhole. Listening to music, dancing and photography take up a lot of my life away from work and if I'm not actively participating, I like to observe others. I'm no expert, but I do enjoy art of all types.

Are you comfortable with yourself and can you speak your mind and not be offended when I speak mine? Can you accept the occasional silence in the room and not feel awkward?

In any given week I might be found enjoying rock and roll, hip hop, blues, techno, jazz or listening to slam poets belting out spoken word. As for interests, every time I look at a profile on here I see another interest I have to add to mine. I like all kinds of things.

I definitely believe that being together can be just for fun and shouldn't always be taken too seriously. First become friends, then take it from there.

I love to flirt and be flirted with. Teasing is a great way to brighten your day, even if you both know that this time it isn't going anywhere. The light sexual tension makes you feel more alive and you don’t have to go home with someone just because you danced with them. But you might.

I am not particularly looking for a lifetime partner, just a friend to go out dancing with, to listen to good bands, to go to museums with, and to enjoy the things in life best shared with someone else. If I find the right woman I might very well settle down with her – but until then…

Write me – let’s talk about the things you wish you could share with a male friend. I'm a very low pressure date. As I've suggested elsewhere, I really have to feel a two-way chemistry to want to take things beyond casual. I can be perfectly happy hanging out, dancing, going and doing stuff together with a female friend even when there is no sexual chemistry so long as there is some sort of emotional connection.

Update October 2009: Working in Los Angeles till March.

I usually like to meet people for the first time at a coffee shop, nice restaurant or someplace quiet like that so that we can talk, unless we've gotten to know each other by phone. But the second time…