Welcome to my most humblest of self-serving sanctuaries.


11-13-08 Stardom
Closing in on POF Nirvana a great gift was bestowed upon me yesterday which must have propelled me into the dating elite. At the sacrifice of great personal virtual wealth, a fellow member electronically delivered a teddy bear to me. There were no instructions telling me how to extract the teddy bear from my computer so I simply printed out a glossy color photo and no longer sleep alone.
(oh yeah, chalk up another favorite for me..the world is my oyster)
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11-10-08 Huger Update!
You are now reading the profile of a man listed on three women's favorites list. I would like to thank my family, friends and most importantly the fans who have made me the favorite man that I am today. I promise to not let it go to my head.
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11-10-08 HUGE UPDATE! STOP THE PRESSES! - I am now on 2 (count'em T-W-O)favorites list of someone else! That puts my ratio at 2:169 or so (depending on how fast the servers update)
I'm feelin it, really feelin it. Watch out ladies!
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Did you ever know how many centimeters tall you were before you looked at your plentyoffish profile? Me neither. This site is friggin great. One thing I do struggle with is the coupling of questions "do you have children" and "do you want children". It is conceivable to answer that you have children but don't want them. Who's looking for that kinda guy? Or you could answer undecided in which case you are simply putting your kids on probation...Good leverage as a parent.

High stress ended in my life sometime around puberty and I'm pretty sure it won't be coming back any time soon. I am not immune to getting upset but pretty close and I am constantly craving to make serious people laugh at every opportunity. So here's where I get a little complex. I am also a fiercely competitive and passionate person. The middle ground I've found is identifying the arenas in which to compete (business, sports, sometimes driving) and resisting competition between friends and family where my true passions reside.

My demeanor is confident, disarming, kind and attentive....until I say something funny and then I either gain or lose charm depending on the quality of the joke. I believe that chivalry is still alive but in a modern context that allows a woman to be daringly independent. These two ideals can dance together. Although my first marriage did not work out I am still a big fan of the institution and plan on getting married again some day (though not today or tomorrow). I'm not looking for rebound girls but I'm not necessarily demanding everyone I date is marriage material. Dating can/should be fun. We're all hoping to find that special someone but we don't have to be so hyper-critical.

I have a good business that allows for a great deal of free time and flexible hours which must be shared with my rock star son (Miles Davis, 4) whom I have half of the time. This keeps me free for long weekend getaways half of the time.

Appendix I
As I read more and more profiles I am humbled by daunting task we all face in presenting ourselves as attractive, desirable people. Having said that, there are some observations I need to share in the hopes of bettering humanity.

1. LIE DETECTOR GONE WRONG There is nothing in a dishonest person's mind that is deterred by you writing that you are looking for an honest man. Quite the contrary. What you are really doing is admitting that you are not good at spotting dishonesty and thus attracting dishonest men. If spotting liars is not your forte than don't draw attention to it.

2. FIFTH FROM THE LEFT, SECOND ROW Group pics are a good way to show you have friends and give a sense of what you and your friends are like together. Great for your second or third pic but confusing and possibly counter-productive for your profile pic. Especially if your friend is cuter than you are which is ofter the case. Stand alone. Stand proud.

3. GLAMOR POOKIE What is the message being sent by those of you who include portraits of your pets by themselves? Is this equivalent to guys posing with their shotguns or Corvettes? I understand if your favorite picture of you happened to be taken while holding your poodle. But the solo pet pics are creepy..could be just me on this one.

4. PUCKER DOWN This one is tricky because many times my favorite image a girl has posted is the one where she has her lips puckered. I understand that puckering has a "slimming affect" and can make one appear cute and flirty. Concerns set in when a fishette has eight images and they all feature fish face. You start to wonder if it is a pose or if this poor girl's relaxed expression is puckered. Please, one non-puckered pick.

5. SAND TRAP With all of the expectations associated with the courting ritual, there is no reason to add undo pressure by expressing your love for long walks on the beach. You see, most men find it difficult to find a beach in Dallas let alone a beach big enough to take a long walk on.

(Disclaimer: If you are exceedingly charming, intellectually stimulating and stunningly beautiful and participate in any or all of these activities, please consider the above statements null and void.)

First dates should start pretty early if at all possible to allow for more time and flexibility if things go good or bailout plans if things aren't so hot. Live jazz venues or chilled out patios are good to get started but you don't want to go too casual or you won't give your date a chance to wear a cute coctail dress or something else sassy. There's no question the next step is all about the vibes you're feeling. If there are sparks you would be crazy not to go to a romantic dinner. If the sparks aren't flying but you're catching a strong connection than a more casual dinner spot would be better. Either one is great. The romance that builds from the ladder could end up stronger than the initial charge from the former. After dinner is really a matter of the day of the week, energy levels and preferences between the two of us. The perfect ending to me is keeping everything somewhere around high school dance rules of bevahior. My aim is always to make sure there is really good momentum leading into the second date so I will stick to the rules (sometimes ever so painfully). And then I'll just get out the receipts for the evening, tell you how much your half is and give you the choice of cash or check and be on my way.

Did I get you? I couldn't resist. Of course, I also accept paypal. Ok, I'll stop. This one's on me.