I know its long and its definitely a mouthful, but I figure its better to tell you more about me here than waste your time dragging it out in multiple emails,,, and like sex, I’m sure some of you will want to fall asleep when you’re done...

I'm a widower, haven’t met, dated or been with anyone since, and that’s going on 4 yrs now, besides I have my little projects and dark chocolates to keep my mind off things, I also work and am raising a kid with all the fun things that go with it, cooking, cleaning, shopping, laundry, (well the cleaning and laundry I tried to put off as long as I can) so if you’re looking for someone to shower you with gifties or entertain and pamper you 24/7, it’s not going to happen (although it will happen at times when it is right, not when it is expected or demanded), but if you are in the same situation, feel like you’re missing something, tired of doing things alone or looking for a friend, confidant and companionship then maybe we can figure out things we can do together.

I don’t do drugs, drink or dance so yeah I know I just eliminated half the fun, I also don’t parachute, fly, bungee jump or ride roller coasters, that just knocked out another piece of fun, but if you just want to order a pizza and watch a dvd, (I know how lonely the sound of your own laughter is when no one is there to share the moment, or having no one there for me to hide behind on the scary parts), try our luck at bowling or see a movie, take a ride to the store or flea market, maybe even eventually do some family bbqs, camping, rafting, canoeing, horse back riding or learn a little skiing, get metal detectors and comb he beaches, move up into the mountains and build a cabin, I’m game...

I’m not much to look at but I got big enough shoulders and don’t run or fall apart when things get tough. I’m also pretty handy and don’t mind getting my hands dirty. I’m quiet and a little shy at first, but once you get to know me I’m still quiet and a little shy,,, oh yeah I also have a good sense of humor, laid back, easy going and like the simple things. I’m also trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, cheerful, thrifty,,,, hey wait a minute, now I sound like a damn boy scout, no wonder I’m still single,,,, oh well, on top of that I don’t have any criminal record, not even a ticket for a moving violation,,,, geezzz I’m started to sound boring to me…… My only vice, I do smoke, cigarettes not the wacky weed stuff, but if you do a little that's fine.

So be real no game players, no he/shes or guys pretending to be girls, aol has enough of them. If you have aol you can go to my profile for OlderSingleNJDad to view my other pics, including a couple naked ones,,, lol, now don’t be gagging or tossing your cookies, I’m just kidding on the naked ones. Looking for someone local, long distance doesn’t work for them spur of the moment, spontaneous outings or activities. If you have kids, that’s ok, I know you’re a package deal and kids always come first.

I have no idea, its been 15 years since I last dated,,, I guess whatever we agree on doing,,