I am an independent, free spirited woman who also happens to be a single mom of three beautiful daughters.. they are of course my number one priority, so if that is an issue, I suggest you read no farther. I can also no longer have children... so if that is a goal of yours, I am probably not the girl for you. I choose to be up front about these issues so that there are no illusions in our correspondence..

I am also deep, passionate and dedicated to personal growth and a healthy lifestyle. Spirituality is important to me(not religion), and my beliefs permeate my existence. Who and what I am is multifaceted and constantly evolving... this is only a snapshot. I like to challenge myself.. and am always growing and discovering new facets of myself and life. I like to be around others who are similar, so that we can grow simultaneously as opposed to apart ;)

For me to get excited about a man, intelligence is an absolute must... I enjoy deep conversations and someone who can challenge me to think and grow in new ways.. who is also open to the same from me :) I like a man with a sense of honor about himself, someone I could truly respect, who has his own code of ethics and deeply held values. Someone who is positive and realizes that happiness is a choice, not just something that descends... one day. I also like a fiery type of man... one with strength of character and the ability to back up what he says and believes.

I am really only here for the forums... but still open to *serendipity*

A glimpse at that which inspires me:

THE INVITATION

It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what
You ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.

It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain. I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.

I doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your soul; if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see the beauty, even when it's not pretty, every day, and if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, Yes!"

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the
company you keep in the empty moments...

From "The Invitation"
By: Oriah Mountain Dreamer

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The minute I heard my first love story
I started looking for you, not knowing
how blind that was.

Lovers don't finally meet somewhere.
They're in each other all along.

~Rumi

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