UPDATE; Distance - I have two choice for geographic desirability, 75 or 20,000 miles. I do not think of negotiating traffic and driving for hours on end as foreplay, please be local. PLEEEEASE

I love: reading, really tall men, kissing, scary movies, vampire novels, music, dancing, art exhibits, working with leather, history, high heels, traveling, museums, french perfume, gardening, sushi or just sitting at home with my cats.

My world does not revolve around sex although great sexual energy with a compatible partner is pretty important to me in a relationship. In fact, it would be pretty empty without that sort of physical love. I am also open to and have indulged in some alternative activities that require and open mind and courageous spirit...and consent! (see BDSM)This could be a deal breaker for some, so please ask me more about this. Keeping in mind that this is just one part of who I am, I also enjoy gardening but don't have to throw dirt on my dates to enjoy them.

I am open to dating and having fun but ultimately I would love to find someone for LTR.

...sandwich break...

My Ideal Person:
Still reading eh? Great!

~ Absolutely not interested in poly or MARRIED/CHEATING ON WIVES men. I deserve better than scraps and will not be on the outside looking in. I am alpha and will not be second best or a runner up. If you are lying to your spouse, a person that believes that you are being honest with her then you will lie to me too. I abhor deceit. This is not negotiable - do not write me.

~ I am a monogamous person by nature and do not have any desire to change that. I have tried polyamory, so I do know that, for me, it cannot work.

~ My ideal partner would have a sense of humor, of the world and of himself. I want to be loved, as we all do, and in return for that love and trust, I share my heart, companionship, loyalty, friendship, respect, as well as my physical self for sexual adventure.

~ I am NOT interested in men that are hyper-sensitive, jealous, insecure, or that has issues with anger or rage. I do not need a therapist, so if you are someone that analyzes everyone but yourself...skip on by me please.

~ He MUST be able to admit that he is not perfect and be open to the possibility that he, like anyone else can make mistakes.

~I am not interested in men under 40 and that is pushing it...been there done that.

These are some traits that I look for in ANY person that I wish to have ANY sort of relationship with-

1- HONEST communication (without it being tied to a brick)
2 - a sense of humor
3 - no narcissists or misogynists
4 - an open mind
5 - The ability for intelligent, thoughtful conversation
6 -A realistic view of themselves and others
7 - Patience
8 - Empathy
9 - The ability to freely love another and communicate those feelings.
10- Courage
11- Must kiss like a man possessed (without being a St. Bernard).

IMPORTANT: I do NOT desire a long distance or cyber relationship. You need to be close enough to touch me...and for me to touch you! Include a pic if you expect a response.

Thanks!

To be honest - I don't have a lot of dates but when I do acquiesce I find that meeting someone at a bookstore, (preferably one that has a coffee shop attached to it) is rather illuminating. We can talk about what we like to read, share ideas and authors, and laugh together at books in the humor section, while sharing a cup o joe.

If the man is reticent to meet at a bookstore, one might assume that he A) Does not want that many witnesses and B) Isn't too keen on recreational reading.

Either way, it is a fine non committal meeting and you can snag new book in the process. A win win.